Monday, January 10, 2011

Sonia and Me

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I was very moved by the Sonia Burgess story (mentioned in yesterday's post here). In many ways, her story is my story.

 

Sonia lived full-time as a woman except at work, where she presented as a male.

I try to live as a woman as much as possible. The exceptions are at work and my life with my wife.

 

Where Sonia worked as a male, "the existence of her alter ego was something of an open secret."

After wearing convincing female costumes to our workplace Halloween parties, I believe that some of my co-workers suspect that something is up.

 

"Sonia was open about her lifestyle to anyone who asked, but she also had separate groups of friends: those who knew her as David and those who knew her exclusively as Sonia."

That describes me to a T (pun intended).

 

Sonia "was growing her hair out and she was certainly discussing some facial surgery and a boob job, but I don't think she was going to go for genital surgery. I don't think she thought it was worth it. It was enough for her to be perceived as female. She didn't see the need to go through such a radical procedure. Partly, this was because Burgess seemed to feel little friction between his (sic) two gender identities."

Same here. If I was full-time, I would grow my hair out and permanently remove the unwanted hair, but I would have no interest in surgery. I feel no friction between my gender identities' As I've mentioned before, I am a woman with a male body and that's alright by me.

3 comments:

  1. The article about David/Sonia Burgess was interesting and beautiful. It is well worth reading in full. Thank you for introducing us to someone who can and should be looked up to as a hero/heroine.
    Regards
    Pat

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  2. "In many ways, her story is my story.

    Sonia lived full-time as a woman except at work, where she presented as a male.

    I try to live as a woman as much as possible. The exceptions are at work and my life with my wife."

    Those exceptions seem broad and encompassing enough to say that her story and your story are two very different things.

    Aside from work, and life with your wife, what are you talking about? Occasional weekends? In your mind?........????

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  3. i am very lucky in that regard as since i "came out " to my wife 10 months ago our life has become fuller and a lot more complete . i dress in my skirts or dresses whenever i am at home and my wife even helps me with make up or my nails. she is very supportive of me and i count myself lucky to have her . as she says she hasnt lost a husband but she has gained a very good girlfriend . i wish your wives/gfriends could be more like her

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