Monday, February 27, 2023

Wear a dress!

March 6, next Monday, is National Dress Day when 
we celebrate the most versatile and fun article of clothing there is — the dress! 

Fashion designer Ashley Lauren founded the day to help pay homage to dresses and the magical moments that happen when we wear them. “I remember the dresses I wore to my prom, first job interview, first date, competing in a pageant, my first red carpet event, the list goes on.”  (In our case, remembering the first dress we wore or the dress we wore the first time we were out among the civilians.)

“This is a fun day to cherish and celebrate those memories.”

The simplest way to celebrate National Dress Day is to wear a dress! Because the day falls during March, it may be cold where you live and maybe you’ve been wearing pants for months. Use the day as an excuse to get out your favorite dress — no matter how springy — put on some leggings or tights and make new memories in your favorite garment.

I hope you will wear a dress next Monday and if you do, take a selfie, send it to me and I will post it here to celebrate National Dress Day online.

By the way, next Wednesday is International Women’s Day, so if you can’t wear a dress on Monday, wear one on Wednesday (when I will be wearing my birthday dress). 

Even better, wear a dress on Monday and Wednesday!

I plan to wear a dress on those days. But it is too early to wear heels. Everything I’ve read says that you have to wait three months after knee replacement surgery before you can wear high heels. I guess I could pose for a few selfies in heels, but I won’t be hoofing anywhere in stilettos for awhile.

My recovery from surgery progresses. I no longer need a cane to get around, however, for my own sense of security, I use a cane when I am going down stairs (although I have navigated the stairs a few times when I forgot my cane).

I had my first rehab session on Friday and the therapist says I am recovering fast, so it won’t be long (yeah) before I will be able to go out en femme again.

Source: ShopBop
Wearing Millie

Lilo Wanders
Lilo Wanders, German professional femulator

Friday, February 24, 2023

Femulating Foto Fun

Recovering from knee replacement surgery, I have been spending a lot of time browsing the Internet when I am not doing physical therapy. One thing leads to another on the Internet and on Wednesday,  I explored websites that transform photos of males to female and 
vice versa. I ended up on the gender swap filter page of the AI Lab Wondershare website

You simply upload a photo to the website and after a second or two or three, the website displays your gender swap. (The website permits you to make ten swaps. After ten, you have to register to continue swapping.)

I uploaded a handful of recent photos and the gender swaps were interesting. I could definitely see the male me in the resulting female swaps. Here are two of the best swaps:

Then I tried something different. I uploaded some photos of moi en femme and the results were amazing. (I’d do the results!) Here are the best – blond, brunette and the redhead image at the top of this post:

In my opinion, the redhead swap was best at retaining my male visage, although I do see me in all the photos that I swapped.

One lesson I learned from all the swaps: I’d probably look more feminine if I thinned my eyebrows more than I have already thinned them.

Anyway, this online app is very addictive. You can spend hours swapping your gender. Have fun!

Source: Rue La La
Wearing Black Halo

Christian De Sica femulating in the 2018 Italian film Amici Come Prima (Friends Like Before).

Wednesday, February 22, 2023

Our Conundrum

By Paula Gaikowski

Conundrum: a problem or puzzle which is difficult or impossible to solve. 

Jan Morris
I cannot think of a better way to describe being transgender. And perhaps neither could the travel writer and historian Jan Morris, which is why she chose “conundrum” as the title to her autobiography chronicling her transition from James to Jan. 

What is most interesting about her transition is it occurred in 1972 when gender transition was still a rarity. While Renee Richards was making headlines, Jan Morris very quietly transitioned and continued writing and publishing highly acclaimed books. One of her best-known was the Pax Britannica Trilogy, a history of the British empire. I had heard about her transition back in 1972 and consumed anything I could find about her in newspapers and magazines. But I never got to read her autobiography.

Jump ahead to the 1990’s and I was working as a field engineer for Motorola in northern New Jersey. In between service calls, we needed to stay in our territory. Subsequently, I found local libraries a great place to do paperwork and read while waiting for the next service call. The Morris County library was a huge regional library that had many books on sexuality and topics like transgender, which was still very new. I would read anything I could find by transgender authors like Caroline Cossey, April Ashley, Paula Grossman, Lili Elbe, Coccinelle, Renee Richards, Christine Jorgensen and I finally came across Jan Morris’s book Conundrum.

I just want to add a bit of context here. I was reading and researching in a library (using the Internet was not an option then). When that happened, our world would open – we would be connected and able to share with each other as we do here in the Femulate community. However, in the 1990’s, we were isolated souls lost in the forest trying to find our way. 

It took me a few days to finish the book. I’d visit the library and grab the book and find my favorite chair off to the side and read for a while. Finally, as I neared the end of the book, I was feeling a bit melancholy and downhearted. As I turned the last page, in the back I noticed a folded piece of paper tucked away in the cover. A piece of lined notepad, ripped and heavily creased, I unfolded it with mild anticipation and there written in blue ink in a friendly cursive script were the words, Know, that you are not alone

My heart quickened, my mouth was opened in a gasp, I looked around fearful of what I’m not sure. Then I quickly came to the realization that I wasn’t the only one like this! Someone else cared. There were others like me right here, they came to this place and read the same books. Perhaps then, just maybe we could find our way out of the forest. Our conundrum.

Source: Joie
Wearing Joie

Ross Adams
Ross Adams femulating in British televisions Hollyoaks.

Monday, February 20, 2023

Eddie Izzard: She/Her

Eddie Izzard doesn’t understand what all the fuss is about. In December, it was reported that the standup comic/actor/campaigner/ endurance runner had adopted the pronouns “she” and “her” and wanted to be “based in girl mode” from now on. Well, it hardly came out of the blue, she says today. Izzard had spent the past 35 years building up to it, and when she did finally make the announcement it happened by chance. 

A few months earlier, Izzard had been a guest on the Sky Arts series Portrait Artist Of the Year, and was asked, for the first time, which pronouns she preferred. She replied “she and her” and never gave it another thought. By the time the programme was broadcast, Izzard had forgotten about the conversation. And suddenly she was headline news.

The funny thing, Izzard says, is that she had first announced she was trans in 2017 in the Hollywood Reporter and nobody had taken a blind bit of notice. But this time it was different. Within hours of the show being broadcast everything had changed – her Wikipedia entry and IMDb history were revised, and every media organisation was running stories about how he had become a she. Actually, Izzard says, she had not intended to be so definitive about it. She had always talked about being in boy mode most of the time and girl mode part of the time, and she was still hoping to keep her options open. For her first half century, boy mode had dominated, and now it was time for girl mode to take centre stage, but on occasions she would still like the freedom to be a he. She soon discovered that wasn’t an option, though.

Take, for example, the new Netflix series she is currently working on in Manchester. In the adaptation of Harlan Coben’s thriller Stay Close, Izzard plays a small-town lawyer called Harry. “As I’m playing a male role, I suggested people should go back to calling me he and him for this, and what the world seems to have said to me is you can change your pronouns but you can’t use he and him as well. You’ve just got to be she and her from now on because we’ve only got so much time on our hands, thank you very much.” How does she feel about that? She beams. “Great. I’ve been promoted to she, and it’s a great honour.”

Click here to read the rest of this article from The Guardian by Simon Hattenstone.

Source: Ann Taylor
Wearing Ann Taylor

Matt LeBlanc, David Birkin, James Cosmo, Eddie Izzard
Matt LeBlanc, David Birkin, James Cosmo and Eddie Izzard femulating in the 2002 film All the Queen's Men.

Sunday, February 19, 2023

Stana on a Sunday

My Left Knee

Visited my surgeon on Monday and they removed the bandage. I was surprised that my leg looked better than I expected. They also gave me the green light to start driving again.

My Physical Therapist (PT) visited on Tuesday and said I am at a six-week level of recovery at only three weeks.

Walking outdoors two or three times each day with a one. Indoors, I only use a cane for going up and down stairs. I can do the stairs without a cane, but use it for security.

Last night was the first night since surgery that I was able to sleep through the night without taking Tylenol.

So we are making progress.


Breeze by Raquel Welch
I wanted to mention the passing of actress Raquel Welch

She had two connections with our community. In 1970, she played a transwoman in the film Myra Breckenridge. The film reviews were so bad (“the worst movie ever madethat I never bothered seeing it, although I did read and enjoyed the book that was the basis of the film.

Raquel had a successful business selling wigs. I don’t have to tell you how important wigs are to our community (don’t leave home without it) and over the years, I purchased and wore a couple of Raquel Welch wigs. They were expensive, but you got what you paid for and they were quality products and more importantly, looked good on me, too.

God bless you, Raquel.

Friday, February 17, 2023

Who’s Next?

First they came for the transgenders, and I did not speak out—

     Because I was not transgender.

Then they came for the drag queens, and I did not speak out—

     Because I was not a drag queen.

Then they came for gay marriages, and I did not speak out—

     Because I was not in a gay marriage.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me. 

The Republican/MAGA/Evangelical gang are hell-bent on cleansing the USA of all vestiges of LGBQT+. You do not have to look far to see they are passing laws and issuing rules and regulations against transgender kids, transgender adults and drag queens and they are counting on the Supreme Court to overturn Obergefell v. Hodges, the decision that legalized gay marriage.

Who’s next?

Do you know that crossdressing was illegal in most jurisdictions of the USA in the past?

According to Wikipedia

...from 1840 forward, United States saw state and city laws forbidding people from appearing in public while dressed in clothes that do not associate with their assigned sex. The goal of this wave of policies was to create a tool that would enforce a normative gender narrative, targeting multiple gender identities across the gender spectrum. With the progression of time, styles, and societal trends, it became even more difficult to draw the line between what was cross-dressing or not. Only recently have these laws changed. As recently as 2011, it was still possible for a man to get arrested for “impersonating a woman” — a vestige of the 19th century laws. Even with this, legal issues surrounding cross-dressing perpetuated all throughout the mid 20th century. During this time period, police would often reference laws that did not exist or laws that have been repealed in order to target the LGBTQ+ community.

Although those laws have been repealed in many jurisdictions, they may still be on the books in other jurisdictions. In either case, in the current political/social climate, it would not be hard to reenact those laws or begin enforcing those laws that are still on the books. 

The bathroom laws that have been passed in some jurisdictions are just the tip of the bucket that is full of potential anti-crossdressing legislation that the Republican/MAGA/Evangelical gang have ready when they decide to go after us.

Be scared, very scared! And don't just sit on your hands while they go after our LGBTQ+ sisters and brothers. Speak up and vote that gang out of office.

Source: Rue La La
Wearing Nanette Lepore

A ladies’ room selfie
A ladies’ room selfie