Wednesday, November 22, 2023


By J.J. Atwell

Thanksgiving Stuffing

Welcome to a special Thanksgiving Stuff-ing column. We have many things to be thankful for. When thinking about Thanksgiving, my thoughts quickly turn to food. And one of my favorite parts of a traditional Thanksgiving dinner is the stuffing. Some people go for bread stuffing. Others for rice dressing. Whatever you use to stuff your bird, I hope you enjoy it this year. 


But why is this column about Stuff-ing, you ask? It’s because I wanted to take the opportunity to talk about what we crossdressers use to stuff our bras and panties to create a more feminine profile. 

Way back in episode nine, I talked a bit about boob sizes. In subsequent columns, I also talked about shape and how they hang. Today, I thought I’d cover stuff-ing your bra so that the boobs look and feel “real.” 

I suspect that the first time a new crossdresser tries on a bra, they use something convenient to pad the cups. Something like rolled up socks. Yes, they work, but they have drawbacks. They can be lumpy and they really don’t feel real to the touch. They also don’t move like natural breasts. 

Let’s move on then. How about some cotton batten? That certainly eliminates the problem with lumps. But they still don’t feel or move like a natural breast. Same with another substitute: foam rubber. Not quite the right consistently.

Another option that some use is water balloons. Yes, water balloons. They have the advantage of being actually quite close to the consistency of a natural breast which, like much of the human body, is mostly water. Water balloons have the approximate right weight and movement. They do have a drawback of course – the danger of springing a leak!

So what is the JJ’s preferred method? She uses silicone breast forms. They have the right weight and movement. They also warm to body temperature over time. They can be very convincing. 

Some crossdressers use a silicone breast plate to get the appearance of cleavage. While I’ve never tried one, I understand they have a couple of drawbacks. They don’t breathe, so the wearer has to deal with sweat. Also they need to be the right skin shade to blend in at the edges – edges that need to be camouflaged to maintain the illusion. 


We crossdressers also often need to pad out our hips and bum to achieve a realistic female profile. What Stuff-ing to use for that? 

Just like breasts, there are several options. Clearly socks or water balloons won’t work because they don’t have the right shape. However, some have had good success with oval foam pads on the side and back inserted into their underwear. There are also padded panties that can be bought from many outlets, which are typically padded with foam rubber. 

The most realistic hip and bum padding seems to be made of silicone and shaped to enhance the hips and wrap around to back to enhance the bum. They feel natural and warm up to body temperature. However, they are surprisingly heavy and require a firm undergarment to hold them in place. Ahhh, the travails of a crossdresser

I’ll be back

I hope you enjoyed thinking about Stuffing. I’ll be back next week, but until then I’d welcome comments here on the blog or by email to Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com.

Source: Ramy Brook
Wearing Ramy Brook

Kandi of Kandi’s Land fame, submitted this photo of the ladies attending the 2023 installment of the annual Lake Erie Gala (left to right, there is Melissa, Marissa, Debbie, Alisha, Gina, LynneLee, Sherry and Kandi) 


  1. I have long switched over to silicon press forms, which in my opinion work great, the big deterrent for me was having them sent to my house, my wife probably would be a little freaked out by this. Remember ladies there’s always Amazon lockers where you can get your stuff sent to

    Below is an interesting recipe for making your own breast forms out of balloons and the gelatin substance inside. Disposable diapers for what it’s worth here it is

    Paula G

    The best homemade prostheses recipe came from someone who used a balloon, water, and an unused, disposable baby's diaper. Apparently, the trick was to take a balloon and slip another balloon inside it (for added leak protection). After doing this, the diaper was to be unfolded and the center crotch area of the diaper was to be taken apart gently. Inside the disposable diaper, a powdery blue substance could be found. By placing a funnel inside the mouths of the balloons, the harvested powder could be poured. Next, a little water would be added, and the end of the balloon would be tied into a knot. The maker would then take the powder-filled balloon and massage it, mixing the substance and water to form a gel. When the gel had formed and lumps had been worked out, the maker could rejoice in a new homemade prostheses

    1. JJ here. Thanks so much for this Paula. Very interesting. I agree with the silicon forms being the best solution.

  2. I have been using water filled balloons in my bra for MANY years, but allow me to say, DO NOT use "water balloons". They are designed to pop upon impact. I get helium quality, 9" balloons and have NEVER had a problem. No leaks, no pops - and the plus side is that in the dead of Summer, you can put them into the fridge before getting dressed and you stay cool for a few hours!

    1. JJ here. Really appreciate you posting your experience with water filled balloons. I'm sure that will help our readers.

  3. JJ let’s address panties! Or did I miss something along the way ?

    1. JJ here, no you didn't miss anything. I never considered panties. I'll have to give that some thought. Thanks!

  4. I use water filled balloons that are 9"-10." Very sturdy. It is easy to assess whether there is a potential leak or will burst; looking for thin spots in the manufacturing process. They give a proper weight and bounce to the ounce. Easy to increase bust size. I have never had a failure. One draw back is water balloons will not work well when sleeping. I still have and use my first "packing material," i.e., a larger size Nerf ball that has been cut in half into two half moons. I increased the padding by using foam liners sewers use when creating bathing suits. I bought them on Amazon. Between the Nerf ball and the pads I get enough to fill a "C" cup bra. Great for sleeping in a bra and slip or nightgown.

    1. JJ here. Appreciate you relating your experience with water balloons. Glad they work for you and many others.

  5. I made my own breast forms using a female impersonator’s recipe: birdseed in a sock. (I actually used dried green peas instead of birdseed.)

    1. Use birdseed/dried green peas to fill a thin sock (not a thick heavy sock) to the cup size you desire.

    2. Tie off the sock as close as possible to the ball of birdseed/dried green peas.

    3. Trim off any access sock and fold the remainder over the knot. Under a bra, the knot does a good job of emulating a nipple.

    By the way, I made my breast forms about 40 years ago and they are still good to go today.

  6. JJ here. I forgot to mention that I did a similar method, only I used uncooked rice. They worked out well and certainly inexpensive.