Friday, April 29, 2022

Out!

Wednesday, I went out en femme for the first time since the pandemic disrupted our lives.

My health issues have improved so much that I did not think twice about going out. The only thing I conceded to my achy left leg was to wear kitten heels instead of my usual high heels. (Walking after getting up from the seated position is shaky no matter what I wear on my feet, but once I take a few steps, I am good to go. High heels worsen the problem, while the kitten heels do not.)

I finally wore my Boston Proper vegan leather dress out for the first time. I purchased the dress in the fall of 2019, but it was too small. I could not return or exchange it because it was a “final sale” that I was unaware of until I tried to make the return/exchange. 

I was stuck with the dress. I thought that maybe if I lost some weight, it would fit, but I did not expect that to happen real soon now. But guess what? During the past two months, I lost ten pounds fretting over my osteoarthritis and now the dress fits perfectly. (That’s a total of 35 pounds lost since 2019 for those of you who are keeping track.)

I accessorized with silver jewelry and a black bag. I was ready to exit to my Subaru in the garage when my wife appeared to check me out. She hated my black bag and insisted that I add some color to my outfit. After trying different accessories, we settled on a red bag and a red floral scarf that you see in the accompanying photo. 

My wife was so helpful – it was as if she was helping out a girlfriend rather than a girly husband! She is a treasure!

The 20-minute drive to the Victoria House Restaurant and Tavern in Cheshire was uneventful and I soon found myself seated in the dining room with four lady friends who I have known like forever: Lisa, Sylvia, Diana and blurred Lee Anne, who had to attend in boy mode because he had a boy mode engagement following out luncheon. (I listed the ladies‘s names, left to right, as they are seated in the photo below.)


Food was secondary to the conversations as we were all getting caught up on what we were doing during the pandemic. By the way, we practically had the dining room to ourselves; there were only two women seated at another table, so some of the trans topics we discussed did not cause a commotion.

I did manage to bring attention to myself exiting the restaurant. To leave the restaurant, I had to go through the tavern, where there were about a dozen civilian patrons. One door in the tavern led to the actual exit and the other door led to the rooftop patio. Of course, I chose the wrong door and the waitress shouted to inform me that I was going the wrong way. Meanwhile, all the patrons looked up to see who was the lost soul! (I was not embarrassed – rather I was happy to show off my female presentation to the civilians.)

I drove home exhilarated to be back in my heels again and looking forward to the next opportunity to go out en femme. I was also happy that I was healthy enough to do so.

Update: Transgender Lives Conference

This just in: I will be presenting at the Transgender Lives Conference at 10 AM EDT on Saturday, April 30. My topic is “Confidence: A Crossdresser’s Best Friend.”



Source: New York & Company
Wearing New York & Company


The Beacon School
Young femulators performing in UK The Beacon School’s production of Bugsy Malone. (Thank you, Zoe, for the heads-up about this femulation.)

20 comments:

  1. Stana
    Make sure that 10lb stays off
    I know, from experience, it is very easy to lose weight like that and put every ounce plus a bit more back on
    Lucy

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    1. Hi Lucy! I managed to keep off the 25 pounds I lost 2-3 years ago, so I think the recent 10-pound loss will be permanent, too!

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  2. Really good to read that you got out and about again after so long. Sue x

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  3. Yay! So pleased for you! That photo is stunning!

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    1. Thank you for the "stunning" comment!

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  4. Sally StoneApril 29, 2022

    Stana, it's so good to hear you are on the move again. I have been fortunate to stay active as Sally. I hated having to wear a mask for all those months, but it was better than not expressing my feminine personality at all. I'm glad that requirement has passed, however. Hopefully it doesn't return. I'm still in love with high heels, but wearing them these days does take a toll, a sign of aging, I guess. I'm learning to love lower heels and flats, but it is a steep learning curve.

    Hugs,

    Sally

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    1. I was ready to go out months ago, but my knee would not let me, Sally! LOL

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  5. I agree with your wife even though the black handbag/purse would probably work I prefer a little color pop to dress up my solid/dark clothing especially with a long dress, coat/jacket with white gloves. Hugs & Kisses, S.A.S. AKA Ms. Missi.

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  6. VERY ..PRETTY LADY, MARK.X

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  7. Stana, I am so happy for you to see you looking fabulous and getting out for a lunch with your friends. I am envious of your improved shape, even if it was due to other health issues causing worry. Great legs as always, hope you can feel more comfortable in your higher heels soon!

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  8. https://wicklownews.net/2014/04/mock-wedding-talk-of-the-town-kiltegan/

    Some of these mock wedding brides d look gorgeous.

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  9. We're so happy to see that you are out and about again! Fabulous look - the wife was right on!

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  10. You look amazing, Sweetie! Having dropped almost 20 pounds due to a Type 2 Diabetes onset, I understand looking on the bright side of illness.
    I also managed to get out during the pandemic and, still looking on the bright side of life, I found wearing a mask really made getting my make up on SO much faster!

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    1. Thank-you for the "amazing," Julie.

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  11. New York and Company model has some mighty big feet. Hmmmm......

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  12. The Beacon School girls reminded me of a co-worker I had waaaaaay back in 1966 at my first job in the computer business. He had gone to the same English boarding school as his dad and grandfather. In the family "tradition" he was a thesbian in a school that was known for its' theatre programme. The "tradition" was that his family were female actors. All of them were of small stature, and my co-worker could shop in the women's petite department if he wished. He showed me photos of a very beautiful girl -- which were of him. The school actually encouraged their female actors to grow their hair long and had them "live the part of a female" during the rehearsal and performance timeframe. "Method acting", I suppose.

    My co-worker told me he presented fully as a female his entire last year at school. He was offered an apprenticeship with The British National Theater Company, but chose to return to the USA to major in Computer Science at MIT. And, yes, he still dressed when "she" wasn't at work. We went out to local drag bars for a while, and she asked me to not be Mikki with her because with me people assumed she was also in drag. Without a clearly "man-in-a-dress" with her, "he/she" was virtually undetectable. It didn't take long for him to be recruited to IBM, our parent company. We lost touch after that.

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