Tuesday, November 1, 2022

The Day After


I woke up Halloween morning, tested my knee and all systems were go. Ate breakfast, filled the bird feeder, shaved, showered, did my makeup, did my hair, got dressed, added jewelry, did my nails, filled my handbag and left the house around noon. My uniform for the day featured a tie-neck sweater dress from Nanette by Nanette Lepore.

The weather forecast was good (partly cloudy, mid 60’s), so I went without outerwear.

Needed money, so my first stop was the bank I wrote about visiting en femme Halloween 2017. I had been a regular at this bank branch for years, but not much lately, so I had no idea if I would know any of the current staff. Any holdovers from 2017 would know me, but any newbies would not. Tired out that none of the current staff were holdovers from 2017. I did not know a soul.

There were no other customers, so I stepped right up to the only teller, who greeted me with a big smile. I don’t know if she read me or if I passed, but the jig was up when I handed her my drivers license in order to complete the withdrawal. She did not react to my decidedly male identification and completed the transaction just as it started – in a friendly and professional manner.  

Needed food, so I decided to go to Viron Rondo Osteria, an Italian restaurant in Cheshire. I’ve dined there a number of times in the past and at least once en femme, so I felt comfortable dining there again.

I arrived at the restaurant around 1 PM and was surprised how busy it was. Their large parking lot was almost full and there were lots of people entering and exiting the establishment.

“Table for one” and I was immediately seated in the busy dining room next to a couple of young women. I asked one of them to take my photo. She was happy to do so and you can see the results below. 

My waitress was pleasant, took my order and in short order, I was drinking a beverage and dining on a delicious pasta dinner. I noticed some male diners and waiters checking me out, but I just looked away... after all, I am a married woman!

Time flew by quickly and before I knew it, the waitress was packing up my leftovers and presenting me with the bill. I overheard her complimenting a couple at another table about their Halloween costume, so when she returned to collect my payment, I asked, “How do you like my Halloween costume?”

She looked at me with a blank expression and asked, “What is it?”

“I’m a guy.”

She was shocked. She had no idea and began gushing over my “costume,” loved my hairdo (wig) and thought that my nails were “cute.”

Needless to say, I drove home floating on air.

Femulating Notes

I wore a new wig: large cap “Reese” from Noriko in the shade of Creamy Toffee R. I love my new do and it will probably be my go-to wig for the foreseeable future.

I successfully wore fake eyelashes. In the past, I had trouble putting them on and ended up going without. Girls in the know say that often the lashes are too long out of the box and one needs to trim them to fit one’s eyelid. I trimmed about a quarter inch off mine and they went on easily and remained on until I removed them at the end of the day.

I wore a pair of grey Payless Karmen 3-inch heels that I bought years ago, but never wore before. The shoes are very cute with a very fine checkered gray fabric covering the shoe and a jet black 3-inch stiletto heel holding up the works. They looked great with my dress with its grey tie and cuffs. But the longer I wore the heels, the looser they became and by the time I returned home, they were falling off my feet. So I will take them to the shop and add inserts to make them fit tighter.

My knee gave me no problem all day long. No aches and pains despite walking around in heels for five hours.

I was very disappointed in a new eyeshadow that I purchased on QVC. It is a box of eight crayons in eight shades from Mally. You literally draw the eyeshadow with a crayon and you have 45 seconds to smudge the shadow around your eye to your liking. Then the shadow dries in place. I found that the shadow was too thick and the crayon too wide to apply the shadow exactly where you wanted it/didn’t want it. It was a big mess and I had to remove all my eye makeup and start all over again using more traditional (powder) eyeshadow.



Source: Rue La La
Source: Rue La La

Yours truly celebrating Halloween by dining out at an Italian restaurant.

34 comments:

  1. Qute Indeedy

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  2. You look great.

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  3. Very elegant looking Stana, no wonder the waitress couldn’t understand your “costume”

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  4. That’s a fabulous look Stana. You look so young too!

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  5. You look wonderful! What a great way to celebrate Halloween – but I wouldn’t call your clothes a costume – they are you!! And I’m jealous – I still can’t put eyelashes on …. 😉

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    1. I think trimming the eyelashes made all the difference. Thank-you, Claire.

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  6. Couldn’t wait to get up this morning and find out about your adventures yesterday, I was not able to get out as Paula, however you look stunning I love your dress your shoes, and I am excited about your new wig I need to check this out, I am having trouble finding a new hairdo for myself all in all what a great day thank you Stana Paula G

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    1. Thank-you, Paula. I was looking at some old photos and thought I used to look pretty good in a pageboy, so that is why I chose the new wig.

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  7. You look absolutely darling. Loved how you "tricked" your waitress too. Bet that truly was the "treat" of the day.

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    1. It was a great day, Heather! Thank-you.

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  8. That's a great look. I was wondering: do you wear a wig cap?

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    1. Thank you, Meg. I don't wear a wig cap. Why do you ask? Is it obvious?

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    2. I ask in order to find out. :) I found them uncomfortable and never used one, and would often get my hair cut short before stepping out as Meg. But now that my hair is easily girl length, I do use one because I can't keep all that hair under the wig without it. The large barren hair desert requires a wig still. Last time I bought a wig, it came with a cap which was actually comfortable.

      So I was wondering....

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  9. What a wonderful feeling when they don't realize that you are a Femulator. So So validating.

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    1. It doesn't get much better than that!

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  10. What an amazing photo! Thanks for sharing. I love your wig, it fits your style perfectly!
    -Christina

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    1. Thank you, Christina. I think you are correct about the wig.

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  11. Stana You always look lovely I am not surprised that no one read you. Thanks for the tip on the lashes I haven't worn them in years because of the difficulty of applying them. Sallee

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    1. Now that I was successful with the fake lashes, I will use them all the time because my natural lashes are not what they used to be!

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  12. Has the years go by and every day your look more beautiful. Congratulations Stana! ¡And you are not in costume...!

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    1. Thank you for the kind words, Fernanda.

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  13. Enjoy the looks. Doesn't mean you have to go there. It's like window shopping with no intent to buy. And maybe one or two of those men are femulators admiring your style and wondering how they would look in your dress!

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  14. Rachel McNeillNovember 01, 2022

    A few years ago, I was recently retired and was actually living in my town of residence, instead of just sleeping here. For nearly 30 years, I spent more time in downtown DC and on the Metro than here. I kept crossing paths with a fellow here and there in town while I was en femme. We exchanged pleasantries while waiting in lines as one does. I mean, the Frederick, MD historic district is REALLY a small town inside a medium sized city of 80K or so.

    I ran into him one day in boy-mode and picked up a discussion. He was dumbfounded, when I told him where and when we had previously talked. He said, "I had no idea you were 'gender-fluid'; you look really good as a woman." I thanked him, and told him, that like DC politicians, I wasn't so much 'gender-fluid' as that I "feel very strongly both ways."

    I nurtured that story of passing in my head for months and months. Oddly enough, I haven't seen that fellow since then.

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    1. Maybe he is going out en femme now and you don’t see through his female presentation.

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  15. Stana, I am so jealous but my therapist said to just learn from her (stana) to be better. Spend extra time on make up and dress better will get you compliments she said and eat more pasta. Nice shoes is the best tip
    Brenda

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    1. A pair of nice shoes is always the solution, Brenda!

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  16. You looked lovely Stana! That dress is so cute!

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  17. How long did Charlie Brown spend in that dress?
    Is he really a civilian?
    He would only be able to go so far at his age and era
    Lucy

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  18. Notice the the "comfy shoes"!

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