Friday, May 10, 2013

Failing to Pass

Comments to Wednesday's post included one that suggested that I not go to Hamvention because "you really don't pass as well as you think you do."

My retort is, "How do you know? Have you seen me drive?"

To tell the truth, I seldom pass and prefer to stay in the right lane on the highway. I only pass when I absolutely have to.

So even if the commenter did see me driving, chances are that he did not see me pass because I seldom do.




Actors Gus Schilling and Joe E. Brown femulating with Judy Canova in the 1943 film Chatterbox.




Wearing Stretta.


  1. Love your response!

  2. Dear Stana,

    GREAT response to Lumpy's comment!

    Regarding today's Femulator photo ... now we can say to Joe E. Brown ... (drum roll, please) ... "Nobody's perfect"! LOL!



  3. I admire your courage for that response!

  4. I have to smile at someone choosing 'Lumpy' as a handle. I say "Leave it to Stana".
    One of the great strides that you have made and have helped others of our ilk make is the ability to get out and about without certification of being 'passable'. Being able to blend in with the civilian population to my way of thinking is a better goal for many reasons.
    You remain a hero. Have a great time at the convention. Keep on rocking.

  5. I, too, have to smile (internally at least!) at a man who picks "Lumpy" as his on-screen name.

    You've made great in-roads for all of us "trannies" and I suspect your road wasn't all that much easier than any of ours. Thank you, Stana, for all that you do and what you've done!

    You keep doing what you're doing and I'll keep reading. I think of you as a real life champion not a comic book hero!

  6. I trust you're a very safe driver, Stana! I think those who don't always pass do the world a far greater service than those who do, personally. It's important that the world understand that some people don't identify with their original biological gender, and that we support them and encourage them to be who they are. If everybody passed perfectly 100% of the time, we'd have the mistaken idea that we lived in a purely black and white (biologically male and female) world, which would only make life more dangerous (and rejecting) for those who don't fit that definition.

    It's not about passing -- trans people don't owe it to the world to pass. It's about being your authentic self, however that may be perceived by others.

    1. That should read "REGARDLESS of how that may be perceived by others." :)

  7. Women aren't shaped or sized like me, and I don't care. I will be me and get out, anyway. But I pass just fine, so long as I (low) heel and toe the clutch and gears properly when shifting, and pump the brakes when needed......

  8. Seems a lot of crossdressers and transgendered mtf are concerned with "passing". There are a few I have invited to come to our support group who write back, "I don't pass that well and am afraid of ridicule from those who see me dressed as female". I feel "passing" mtf is very difficult. But you need to "pass" within your own mind and forget about what others may think. One can not change the thoughts of others, so why worry? "What Me Worry" quote from Alfred E. Neuman mascot of MAD magazine serves my mind well.


  9. Stana -

    I love the use of "Passing" with driving a car....

    Have a great time at the convention.


  10. You pass.

    Your secret admirer

  11. I love that response! Have a great time at Hamvention!

  12. No need to pass take your time getting there,and have a great time!!

  13. Stana,

    I went to a play in Wakefield RI last night and, yes, I did pass. Lots of cars that is since I was running late and needed to eat something. The play, God's Ear, was quite interesting and it had a crossdressing flight attendant in it!

    WRT the other form of passing, while I was not the only one not in pants, I was the only one in a dress. There were a few in skirts. I wore my fuchsia dress with a black cardigan ... not quite your normal small town community theater dress code. So, did I pass? I suspect not. Probably not everyone read me but I can't believe that all were fooled. Did I care? Bluntly, no. I was treated well. Included in some conversations about the ice cream I had gotten from the shop across the street. They were envious (of the ice cream). However, a number of women gave me that "all female" smile (which I returned.)

    I enjoyed myself even if the play caused me to think more than I had planned. I had a chance to go out as a "normal" female would. So I was happy.


  14. Stana, totally passes. The only times she MIGHT not, by her own admission, is face to face in a check out line. Dayton, Oh. is not as tough of a town as many may think. I don't pass as well as Stana, and I have no problems in the area, even when I get "read", people are by and large polite. Best steak in Dayton, The Pine Club. (cash only). Best pizza, Marians. A thin crispy crust, ask for it cooked in the old brick ovens, and ask for it "crispy" = 1 step below well done... I've never been to these places en femme, but I would not be afraid to if I looked like Stana.