Sunday, February 1, 2015

Monica's Favorite Photo (of Monica!)

This is cheating a bit. It is indeed one of my favorite pictures or myself, but maybe not the most favorite.

Why do I like it?

Well, I think it looks quite convincing for a non-op/non-hormone gal! My face is nicely made up and it even has a dewy glow. My natural hair wig is looking good. The makeup has made my jaw look much pointier and less square. All in all, I would be disappointed if I did not mostly pass looking like this. It is a strong face; but not an unfeminine one.

I have blanked out my eyes, not because I am ashamed or because I think people will recognise me; I am very sure they will not (hi Veronica!), but because I do not want to take the chance of somebody with facial recognition software outing me when I am not ready. I am not out to family and friends... yet! I want to ensure I do it on my own time.

I have a question for those who read this blog. I have seen many of you express in writing how you love being a woman. I love being a woman, too. I exist as a guy, but, as a woman I live! Us non-op/pre-op non/pre-hormone people seem very positive and joyful about the experience of being women. Is this the same for post-op people?

I only ask as my wife does not go around every day (unlike me!) saying things like, “I just love being a woman!” Are us part-timers living in a permanent pink cloud. Do the post-ops lose the pink cloud ecstasy that we have? If so, why go full-time or even have the op? Just askin!

In response to my open invitation to send your favorite photo along with the story behind it and the reason it is your favorite photo, I received a lot of photos and stories that I am posting in the the order I received them. My invitation still stands, so don't be shy, send me your fave foto!

Source: Madeleine

Wearing Madeleine.

British sailors circa 1920.


  1. Hi Monica,

    I love my life as a part timer but realize that there is a certain euphoria present that would go away when the reality of full time living would set in. There are challenges we would face that we don't at present. All this to say that there is nothing wrong with being the way we are but we do live in a kind of bubhle that could burst once you cross over to the other side.


  2. Interesting questions Monica (and a lovely photo). Speaking as a straight person comfortable with their own privilege (and I have seen it in action a lot), I would assume that both pre- and post-op people are happy to be women but no more or less than those born in female bodies.

    If anything, I'd say they would notice male privilege more post-op than pre- and, like your wife, probably not go around permanently saying how happy they are to be women except in circles where people knew it was not always perfectly aligned.

    Mind you, that's my privilege talking. I imagine people with the actual experience have more pertinent things to say on the matter! :)