Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Being a Modern Lady

Dave Foley Tuesday evening, I watched a new television show, a sort of a modern day My Fair Lady or Pygmalion, titled Selfie.

Here is its plot according to IMDb: "After being the subject of an embarrassing viral video, a self-involved 20-something enlists the help of a marketing expert to revamp her image in the real world."

Before her revamping, the young woman's wardrobe featured tight micro-miniskirts, revealing blouses, and sky-high heels with makeup and hairdo that reflected her wardrobe. She reminded me of some of my trans sisters and I admit that I saw some of myself in her image.

It got me thinking about my image. Is it not lady-like? Is it too immature? Too slutty? Too transy?

I can hear some of you responding, "Yes, yes, yes, yes!" But I am not so sure. I believe I am lady-like in general, but a little "if you got it, flaunt it" in a Kate Middleton way.

Just in case, I perused the Internet for assistance and turned up a couple of websites that can fine-tune being a lady: "Ten Tips for Being a Modern Lady" by Taryn Cox on The Daily Love and a wikiHow titled "How to Be a Lady."





Source: Madeleine

Wearing Madeleine.






Grayson Perry, artist and femulator


  1. From the outfits I've seen you in on the blog, you look like a high-end real estate agent, the ones that sell the better homes in the better neighborhoods.

  2. I'm not sure what good taste is, but I know it when I see it!

    In my femulations, I attempt to project myself image in a tasteful way. Yet I love you g trends. Our physicality plays a big role in what we can wear and at what age. I don't have to say it, but you know what I mean. Oh ok I'll say it. Flaunting what you got requires having what you think you got. But I degress everyone can dress their age and trendy if they just look at their reality.. I don't know what that is. But sometimes neither does the person who is attempting to collide teen, hooker, middle aged male with a typical unattended to physic.

  3. Stana,

    Reading about being a lady, I must say that we all can be more "lady-like" even when we are not femulating. They are just plain good hints on living in harmony with others. I hope as a guy I aspire to them!

  4. "You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear". "You cannot coach speed". There is only so much that many of us can do when we are femulating. It is just nice to try to do the best that you can with what you have to work with.

  5. I agree. Being a tasteful lady is why I have passed living and working as a woman since 1998.

  6. Stana is quite right in her comment about flaunting it "in a Kate Middleton way" Kate is the style icon that she is because she dresses in that understated stylish manner but still a bit edgy. I did a column for TG Forum this week on her here I would disagree with Pat's comment because you can come close to turning that sow's ear into a princess but it takes a little effort. All to often though, CDs want that sexy look (or what they think is sexy) as it's a turn-on. If you have the figure, great, but most of us over 40 are not going to pull it off. I've come to realize that there is a big percentage of our community that just want to dress like a woman, but not actually be perceived as a woman

  7. I always attempt to be a lady - which to me means dressing and acting like a true female of the species, somewhat close to appropriate for my age. I still allow a little "fun and flirty" to come through, but I try to dress and present as someone out to have a good time - not necessarily out to BE a good time.

  8. Love that orange suit -very sexy

  9. Love That Orange Suit- Very Sexy