Thursday, September 11, 2014

My Secrets

IMG_0730 On Tuesday, Paula left the following comment: Love your style; please share your secrets with us and post your favorite on line shopping sites!

I had to think about my "secrets" because most of what I do style-wise comes naturally to me. I don't think about it, I just do it. And this is what I do. 

Emphasize your assets.

My legs are my best assets, so I show them off by wearing short skirts and high heels. Heels make my legs even more shapely and short skirts reveal the results.

And there is some truth when I say, "My skirt's not too short – my legs are too long! " I have resigned myself to the fact that the styles I prefer are going to be on the short side due to my leg length.

Dress for your body's age, not your calendar age.

My arms are svelte enough for sleeveless sheaths and my legs are toned enough for short hemlines, so I show off what I've got (while I've still got it).

When in doubt, wear nude pumps.

Matched to my skin tone, they're a safe bet and they make my legs look even longer.

If it works, keep working with it.

When I find a style that looks good on me, I become a fan of that style and populate my wardrobe with more examples of that style. For example, I discovered that I look good in wrap dresses and as a result, I now own an assortment of wrap dresses.

On the other hand, keep an open mind. When you are shopping, try on styles that are not in your style book. You never know – it may look great on you. That's how I discovered that jumpsuits belong in my style book.

Never buy a boring coat.

"Outerwear should never be an afterthought," says Holmes & Yang co-designer Jeanne Yang. "So many people only see you in your coat—if you're not wearing something great underneath your trench, they'll never even know!"

With that thought in mind, fur coats are never boring. I own two full-length fur coats and a fur jacket. And I love animals, so all my furs are fake.

Own something in animal print.

Animal prints are timeless, racy enough, and always glamorous. I own a variety of animal print clothing and accessories.

Scarves are not for hiding.

Scarves are recommended for girls like us to hide our Adam's apple. I don't have much of an Adam's apple, so I never wore scarves... until about five years ago, when I came across my dear departed Mother's stash of scarves. One girls' night out, I wore one of her scarves in her honor; I liked the look and began collecting and wearing my own stash of scarves.

Bigger jewelry is better jewelry.

Most girls like us are proportionally larger than cisgender girls. As a result, some of the jewelry designed for cis-girls is proportionally too small for us. So when I shop for jewelry, I shop for jewelry that is bigger rather than smaller.


If you have any questions about my secrets or anything else, please ask (stana-stana at In another Femulate, I will deal with the second part of Paula's comment and discuss my favorite on-line shopping sites.

(Thanks to for helping me bring out my secrets.)





Source: Rent the Runway

Wearing Cynthia Rowley.





Gaurav Ghera femulates as Mrs. Pammi Pyarelai on Indian television (2013-15).


  1. Dear Stana,

    Thank You for your personal style thoughts. As a sister 6-footer, I'm also fortunate to have very nice legs that look especially good in high heels and nylons. My favorite hemline length touches just at the bottom of my kneecaps, so most of my dresses and skirts are around that length.

    You look SPECTACULAR in today's photo. I love LBDs, especially multi-layered ones with the outer layer being chiffon.

    Isn't it just SO WONDERFUL being a woman!



    1. Hi Sheila,

      I love that dress, but it had a bum zipper and I had to be practically sewn into it the one time I wore it. I should get it fixed, but I should do a lot of things!


  2. Very sound advice - I especially agree with the "dress your body's age, not calendar age" -- if your body call pull it off, go for it!

    1. That's they key, Julie... if your body can pull it off!

  3. "Skirts are like speeches. They should be short enough to keep the audience interested and long enough to cover everything."


  4. Stana===

    Great article very informative =, you rock that LBD

  5. I feel the same way, although I have some tricks when it comes to adapting a male body to a more feminine form , most of my mannerisms and styling comes naturally. About the only thing that I and my wife Dee have to keep reminding me about is my slouch. Ladies shoulders back chin up palms out. ;)

    1. My voice can be my downfall because I let it go its own way if I am not paying attention to it!