Monday, March 4, 2024

The Women

When I first started going to Hamvention back in the late 1970’s, there were very few female attendees. But since then, I have seen more and more women attending Hamvention each year (and I have done my part by attending as a woman since 2010).

The women I have encountered at Hamvention have embraced me as a member of their gender even those who are familiar with my roots.

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A woman I had never met before and who is the wife of a prominent ham, came up to me after the awards dinner ceremonies when I was awarded the Special Achievement Award. She introduced herself and then asked me if I prefer being called “Stan” or “Stana.”

Once that was settled, she went on and on praising me profusely saying what an inspiration I was and how brave I was to do what I do. Then she added that the women at her table were very impressed with my makeup and wanted to know if I gave lessons. And then she invited me to her home. She lives 20 minutes from me, so I accepted the invitation and wait for her to get back to me to confirm a date.

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One female ham I have known for many years and who is very familiar with my roots, lives in Connecticut, but I usually only see her in Ohio at Hamvention. She staffs a booth near my booth and we always meet up at one booth or the other to chat and catch up, as was the case one Friday morning at Hamvention, when she stopped by my booth. After talking for about ten minutes, she had to go, but before she left, she said, “By the way, you look beautiful!”

I was speechless, but managed to squeak out a “thank you.”

Then she added, “I really mean that!Ú

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Now that I had been accepted as a member of the women’s club, I decided to join the Young Ladies Radio League (YLRL), which bills itself as “an organization for women with amateur radio licenses and like radio itself, extends to women all over the world.”

So I moseyed over to the YLRL booth, where I was greeted as an old girlfriend and encouraged to complete their membership application. The three women staffing the booth couldn’t have been nicer and willingly accepted me as a member of their organization ― even one of the women who must have been familiar with my roots because she congratulated me for my award having seen my photo and bio in the Hamvention program.

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With all the recent malarkey about bathrooms, I was a little nervous about using the women’s restrooms during my trip, but I threw caution to the wind and used the facilities that corresponded with my presentation. No one called me on it and some of the women I encountered in the restrooms, smiled and/or greeted me with a “Hello,” so I guess they felt I belonged.

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The booth across the aisle from my booth always hires two or three 20-something women (classic “booth babes”) to hand out stickers and literature during the convention. They always seem surprised that my booth has a 60/70-something booth babe (me), but they seem to accept me into their club. They were very friendly and were willing to chat about the biggest booth babe pitfall ― wearing high heels. For what it's worth, I was still wearing my heels long after those young whippersnappers switched to flats!

And so it goes..

I Believe Dept.

In my youth, I purchased a bunch of paperback collections of Ripley's Believe it Or Not! comic strip. As a budding trans youth, I was fascinated by a particular Ripley strip about a crossdressing pool shark named Frances Anderson. I had long forgotten about her until an article about her appeared in a recent Them. Click here to read all about her.

Where the Action Is Dept.

In case you missed it, please visit my Saturday post all about taking action against the anti-trans legislation now in the works across the good ol’ USA.

Source; Ann Taylor
Wearing Ann Taylor

Frances Anderson
Frances Anderson


  1. before she left, she said, “By the way, you look beautiful!”

    I couldn't agree more..!

  2. The Nazis are on the march. We can't let them win.

  3. your experience with women mirrors mine. is it just the nature of their gender to be accepting? they also launch in to discussions of female related issues that they would never bring up with a man.-emily

  4. Society could take a very material step forward if all recognized that the vast majority of LGBTQ issues, and especially crossdressing, are answered by the right to free expression everyone enjoys under the 1st Amendment. Then perhaps we could all get on with having some fun....

  5. I would say that when women want to emulate the femulator, she has reached the pinnacle of Mt. FemmeπŸ₯°

  6. I get compliments from women for the dresses I wear, and a few about my painted fingernails and makeup. Now when a man such as myself dressed en femme gets those compliments, that is something. I have received almost no pushback from presenting en femme.


  7. Rachel McNeillMarch 06, 2024

    One of my friends shared a picture of the Rachel version of me with his elderly mother. She's known me for almost 50 years.

    She said "That's disgusting... but [he] looks good and that IS a beautiful dress."