Saturday, August 19, 2023

Stana’s Way

You may have noticed I replaced the old Femulate logo with a new Stana’s Way logo. 


When I started this blog in February 2007, I considered myself to be a “plain vanilla crossdresser,” so I created the word “femulate” to reflect my persona (a male emulating a female) and name my blog. 

A lot of water has gone under the bridge since 2007 and I jettisoned the “plain vanilla crossdresser” descriptor long ago. Rather than being a male emulating a female, I realized that I was a female emulating a male. And doing a bad job of it – not because I wasn’t trying to “man up,” but because manning-up was so foreign to me.

I could have changed the name of the blog long ago, but I hesitated because the word “femulate” that I invented had become part of our language and I was proud of that fact. However, after exchanging emails with Ciara, I decided that the name change was a long time coming and “Stana’s Way” better reflected me than “Femulate.” 

I am certainly not a male according to society’s standards. I am also not a cisgender female. However, I am a woman with a male body and I am not going to let that little handicap prevent me from being the best woman I can be. That’s my way.

Also, I am not abandoning “femulate;” the blog URL remains and posts about femulating will keep on coming full speed ahead.

And so it goes. 

Source: Elisabetta Franchi
Wearing Elisabetta Franchi

Crystal James
Crystal James


  1. Stanah
    There is a Stanah Road in the UK
    I haven't found a Stanah's way yet

    1. Love it! Here is a Google Street View of Stanah Road with the street sign in view.

  2. Dear Stana , you said  "  Rather than being a male emulating a female, I realized that I was a female emulating a male." , I believe for many of us this is so Very True .๐“ฅ๐“ฎ๐“ป๐“ช ๐“ข๐“ฎ๐“ช๐“ผ

  3. Oh ! how it would have been wonderful to be dressed like Crystal James , just being myself at that age , so long ago .
    ๐“ฅ๐“ฎ๐“ป๐“ช ๐“ข๐“ฎ๐“ช๐“ผ

  4. We all grow and move forward. This name change brings you to a new place in your relationship with yourself. As Woody Allen once said, "A like a shark. It has to constantly move forward or it dies." And the one thing NO ONE wants is a dead shark.

  5. A Tgirl is probably the last person to notice she has crossed the dividing line between being a man pretending to be a woman and a woman pretending to be a man

  6. I suppose my question is, how many of us wish we were not crossdressers? For me, my first time was as a seven year old. I was forced to dress up as a girl at a summer day camp show. I didn't want to and I felt extremely humiliated.

    As a middle schooler, I began crossdressing in secret. No one ever discovered that secret. As a teen, I beat myself up for having a desire to wear girl's clothes. What was wrong with me? Was there anyone else who did what I did.

    I remember reading "Catcher in the Rye" and was struck by Holden Caulfield's description of a transvestite he observed through a hotel room. He watched the man get dressed up in an evening gown. It matched what I did in private.

    I did a womanless beauty pageant in High School and a couple of Halloweens as a woman, but as I said in an earlier post, it's mostly in secret.

    Over many years I came to accept my crossdressing as something that was there just as I have a liking for blueberries. Though, dressing up as a woman feels much more exciting.

    Yet, now that I'm a senior, I believe that my life would have been easier and happier if femulating was not a part of it.


    1. Emily, perhaps your life would’ve been a lot easier if society would have accepted your cross dressing or would have allowed you to transition or even live as a woman?

      I remember reading catcher in the rye in high school and I too was struck in hyper focused on that scene about the cross dresser that Holden Caulfield saw through the hotel room window it really resonated with me

      Paula G

    2. Look at it this way , an Alcoholic can have a genetic affinity for Alcohol But they decide to drink and a Femulator has a natural affinity to Crossdress so he decides to crossdress to Femulate . Just like an Alcoholic will always say they are an Alcoholic when they don't touch alcohol anymore a Femulator will always feel they are a Femulator even when he doesn't crossdress anymore.
      So both are an Addiction which one can stop if they Truly want to Stop .

    3. I stopped for 20 some years, but at 71 it came back stronger than it had ever been. Sometimes I want to stop and other times, I want to enjoy it to the fullest. This and other blogs are enjoyable, as my life has little meaning anymore, and this provides an outlet for stress. I have a complete wardrobe now, and have thought so often of purging once again. I'm keeping everything now as I have too much money in it to start over again.,

  7. Evolution happens. Especially with us ladies. And you are smart to keep your URL for marketing purposes as it likely is deeply seeded in google search returns.

  8. or how fortunate we are to have experienced life in both genders (another Emily)

  9. This is what the Internet has to say about the term Femulate, I am really proud of that word the fact that you invented it and build it glad to see it’s going to stick around

    The term "femulate" seems to have originated in the crossdressing and transgender communities, particularly within online forums and discussions. While I don't have an exact date of origin, it gained popularity in the early 2000s. It's a combination of "female" and "simulate," indicating the imitation or simulation of feminine traits. The term is used to describe actions and behaviors that involve presenting oneself as a member of the opposite gender Paula G

  10. I think Femulate is more inclusive to all

  11. Surely femulate is a combination of female and emulate, not female and simulate.
    Penny from Edinburgh.