Thursday, October 12, 2017

Long Nails in Boy Mode?

Dear Stana,

I absolutely love your blog and visit it several times a week. I really appreciate the time you put into making your page worth a look and keeping it updated. Those comics are hysterical!

Now I must ask, as much as you are out and about and somewhat "open" at work, would you share your opinion on guys with long nails?

I do wear my nails long, and they have been getting longer as I've been getting braver. Today, in a meeting with two females, the more masculine one called me on it. She said "you need to clip your nails, why are they so long?"

I told her they were to claw her eyes out. The other girl remarked she must really know me well to make that kind of comment.

My employer prides itself on embracing diversity and I have little care for what "the company" would say, but it's individuals like this that make me stop and think about what I am doing. I feel sure more people have noticed, but have respectfully withheld comment.

I do love having long nails to polish on the weekend when I have more time to femulate. Do you have any thoughts?

Keep up the great work!


Hi Robyn,

Thank you for the kind words!

I wear false pre-glued stick-on nails (Kiss brand) mainly because I never got the hang of polishing my own nails under the gun. However, for six or eight months a few years ago, I did grow my own nails out to a feminine length.

I never worried about what my co-workers thought about my nails. If one asked about my nails, I would point-blankly respond that my nails are long because I dress as a woman on weekends.

Either they thought I was joking and laughed at my response or they didn't know what to think. In either case, I never was asked twice by the same person.

As long as you keep your nails neat and clean, no one should have any complaints about them. I am a little surprised that your co-worker said that about your nails. She had a lot of nerve!

I say, you go, girl and wear your long nails and the public be darned!

Best Wishes,


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  1. Long nails in male boy mode can be a give away if you are "not out"
    I used to work in an office where one man was suspected of being one of us simply because even though his nails were short they looked too good

  2. I love the Kiss brand too, they are so easy to apply and stay on very well. I hate taking them off the next day because they look and feel so good. Last week, on a business trip, I came out about my femulation to a co-worker by wearing my nails the next morning to breakfast (I had gone out the night before). They were very natural in color and she did not notice until I held up my cup of coffee, with my hands wrapped around the cup, looked at her and said, "I have something to share with you". Her mouth gaped open and her eyes grew wide as she pointed at my fingernails, and then we had a really fun discussion. It felt good to share this with her and I never worried about her reaction as I knew it would go well. In the end she thanked me for trusting her and sharing this "mostly" hidden part of me with her.

  3. Robyn,
    I think that Stana's comments on your inquiry were on target. If you would like to check out a blog of a senior girl who keeps her nails shaped and polished I would refer you to "From Me to Mandy" at She often discusses her nail treatment and her approach to being somewhat androgeneous in her presentation.

  4. Having had my nails long and painted for several years, even though a combination of issues means that I haven't dressed in almost 2 years, I've found that most people don't even take any notice any more.

    Then again, my male facebook profile has a femme photo, so it's not as if people don't know. ;-)

  5. That was really an uncalled for comment about cutting your nails! I would answer such a comment by saying that I like long nails and would LOVE to get my nails done professionally but really can't due to the social stigma attached. Be advised though that females DO (for the most part) notice such things as per the first "anonymous" comment. You're fooling yourself if you think that they do not.

    How the staff reacts is a product of your relationship with them and perhaps also how long you have been a fixture at the office. I usually wear my nails from 1/4" to 3/8" in length (until I break one...) and I shape and buff them. I have only had one comment and it was an oblique one - not hurtful in any way. I feel that your relationship with every individual at the office is truly what alters their thinking patterns and their comments. The "you need to clip your nails" comment was over the line but I wouldn't write her off as a result - she may be an interesting individual who says what they think and I value people like that too. :-)



  6. Can't resist putting "my two cents worth" in...

    Before I retired a number of years ago (about 6?) my wardrobe was almost exclusively from the women's side of the aisle - slacks, a company polo or generic top, and feminine flats. My nails were generally acrylics with a french manicure, and since none of my slacks had pockets, a purse was my constant companion.

    My attire (and my nails) evolved over time. When retirement approached, I was enjoying (yes really) being a part of a couple of the at-break female cliques. My nails were under constant scrutiny by the girls, and several of them encouraged me to switch from french nails to wearing red acrylics. "Red is'd look so pretty in all your outfits with long red nails!"

    Many of my co-workers knew my wife from some social events, so that was not an issue. And they knew that was the factor preventing my wearing red nails. While everyone probably figured that I dressed as a woman on the side, it didn't matter.

    Unfortunately, acceptance (or not) is where you find it...