The next conference I attend will be en femme and I wanted to alert him beforehand.
In anticipation of coming out, I had composed a 500-word letter of explanation weeks ago. Yesterday at high noon, I copied the words into a blank e-mail, made a few changes, then I stared at the Send button for a few hours.
I did not actually stare at the Send button all that time, but I did consider whether or not to send the e-mail for three hours.
It was a tough decision. In the past, I have come out to friends and acquaintances who have known me for a long or short time, but all of them were women.
I find it very easy to come out to women. I guess because I am telling them that I am on their team.
Men are not so easy. Just encountering men when I am en femme gives me pause; coming out to a man is unthinkable. My friend would be the first male friend or acquaintance I would be coming out to.
I finally realized that I had to tell him, so I hit the Send button and girded myself for his reply.
I was so worried about his response that I did not check my e-mails the rest of the afternoon. Finally, after dinner, I looked for his reply, found it, and opened it.
He wrote, "Thank you for the e-mail. I am sure it was hard to send. But rest assured, you have my respect and support. I think it is best that a person be true to themselves, and you are doing just that. You go girl!"
He floored me with “You go girl!”
Now, that's a real friend!