Sunday, November 15, 2009

last night

I am not in any pain, but I can feel my calf muscles when I walk today, which is a pleasant reminder that I danced the night away in four-inch heels.

My feet feel fine, but it probably would have been different if I had not made a fashion adjustment before leaving to go out last night to attend One Big Event, the annual fund-raiser for the Hartford Gay and Lesbian Health Collective.

I originally planned to wear a pair of strappy sandals. My toes suffered dearly the one time I wore them out a few years ago, so I stretched the toe straps all week long. It did not help.

After wearing them for a half hour before departing last night, my toes were hurting. I took the sandals off and a purple welt was developing near the base of my big toe on my right foot, so I decided to find a different pair of shoes to wear.

I chose my new sling-back open-toe black patent pumps with a four-inch heel that I bought at Payless last month and it was a wise choice. They were comfortable the entire evening and they were nice looking, too.

(The photo above shows me before and after the fashion adjustment.)

I arrived at the Hartford Hilton at 6PM, found the banquet hall and checked in. There were about 300 people in attendance. Males dominated the attendees at about a 5 to 1 ratio. There were about ten trans girls in attendance and most of us sat at the same table with our SOs and allies.

Everyone was dressed to kill. Some women wore evening gowns, but the majority wore dresses in various styles, so I did not feel at all out of place in my cocktail dress.

Except for my trans friends and the couple whose wedding I attended in September, I knew no one else in attendance, so I mingled with the people I knew and people-watched the people I did not know.

I noticed that I was the object of others who were people-watching; that could be a good thing or a bad thing. No one laughed at me or gave me a dirty look, so maybe it was mostly a good thing.

Robin, who convinced me to attend the event, took the nice photo (right) of me seated at our table, where we had salad, a chicken dinner, and dessert. It was the first time I ever had a cupcake for dessert at this sort of event; it was very tasty.

After dining, there was an auction (to which I paid no attention), a comedian, who was amusing, but not laugh-out-loud funny (in my opinion), and then the music began with a great live band. I danced about 1 out of 3 songs, not because I did not want to dance, but because I lacked a partner. Near the end, I just danced with a group of trans girls and had a great time.

During one dance, the event photographer made a special effort to shoot photos of me dancing. I will have to watch the Health Collective's web site for photos.

I had a wonderful time last night and felt very pleased with myself. Did I forget to mention that when I got on the scale yesterday morning, I discovered that I had lost ten pounds during the past two months? I was very pleased indeed.


  1. Had a similar experience at Lake Erie Gala last year. Here's a tip from the fashionistas: bring a pair of cute ballet flats (black or metallics will work with just about any dress) in a tote which you can check with your coat for emergencies such as this. Kisses, Andrea

  2. Susan McDonnellNovember 16, 2009

    I see why you liked the strappy sandals. I liked the look of them better. But, the way they feel an hour later is what really counts.

    I have some Nine West pumps that have a four inch heel. I love the look, but if I try to walk more than a short distance in them, my thighs start to hurt so much I can't stand it. My Easy Spirit pumps are so much easier to walk in even with a three inch heel.

    All in all, you looked great and I'm sure you had a fun time.


  3. Hi Staci

    When you go to an event like this you have to look good (and you do) but it is important to be comfortable also. There is nothing worse than watching a tgirl with foot problems, so you were very wise to change..........and anyway I love the slingbacks.

    TinaCortina xx

  4. Tina --- Regarding "a tgirl with foot problems" ...been there, done that, and I didn't want to do that ever again!

  5. Susan --- Thank you for the kind words.

  6. Andrea --- In the past, I have brought along a second pair of shoes just in case. The problem with my sandals is that I could not even get out of the starting gate wearing them!