Are you confident in your femme presentation?
Over many episodes of Stuff, I’ve talked about how you present in public and the role that your confidence plays in your believability. Did you take that to heart? How do you honestly feel?
I’m mostly confident
I’ve felt my confidence grow the more that I get out as JJ. Usually, once a month I’m out to a group meeting. That could be a safe, private venue like our clubhouse location. Little pressure there. Or it could be a public place like a restaurant for a Girls’ Night Out. A bit more pressure there as you are now out where you and your sisters are all easily seen and judged. Surviving several of those evenings did wonders for my confidence.
Going even further, JJ has gone out to a couple of stage shows. Doesn’t sound like a big thing, does it? You just sit there in the dark watching the stage, right? Yes, that part is true, but you need to get to that seat in the first place. That means passing through metal detectors and ticket collectors, then mingling with the other patrons waiting for the doors to open. Even greater pressure is intermission where everybody heads to the restrooms. Surviving a couple of those experiences gave me more confidence when going out.
But I’m not there yet!
You would think that with that level of experience JJ would have become very confident. Well, she thought she was. Then she got an invitation from a couple of my good, well accomplished, CD friends to go out for lunch and shopping in a nice, artsy community.
For some reason, the thought of that scared me. Out milling amongst the general public with two other CD’s and our SO’s. Could JJ pull it off? She wasn’t sure she was ready for that. As I write this, I’ve pretty much convinced myself to go ahead and push the envelope further. I’ll report back on how this turned out in a future Stuff.
I’ll be back
I’ll be back with more Stuff for sure. Comments are welcome either here on the blog or by email to Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com. JJ is always looking for more stuff, so let me know what you would like to read about.
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I'm much more confident in the world as Heather than I was 2.5 years back. Now, I have the strength to be myself.
ReplyDeleteIs my presentation perfect? Nope. I don't wear makeup! Well, I use an eyebrow pencil and tint product daily, occasionally use mascara and rarely use lipstick. If I'm doing something important, I'll use a powder. My spouse NEVER wears makeup so she's not a training resource for me on how to use some of the products! My kids have come to my rescue a few times.
I had a major wardrobe malfunction last week. I lost my hair at work while sitting through a video training presentation. I only panicked a little bit. Then I collected my hair, went to the corner with the mirror and put everything back together and brushed off the stress.
My advice to everyone is to just do the best you can. Live your best life every single day!
Heather
I really, truly believe that wearing clothes that you love sets you up for a good day. Through dogged determination and blind luck I have collected some dresses and outfits that make me feel truly wonderful (thank you random French lady for selling your Parisian skirt that no longer fit.) It’s Kevlar for me and I can wade through anything wearing them. It is a solid starting point for building confidence — the rest is just acquiring experience.
ReplyDeleteHi JJ!
ReplyDeleteConfidence is certainly one of the best accessories we can have.
If we are hesitant, hiding in the corner, or act like we are doing something wrong I think it attracts way more attention and leaves others not knowing what to think or how to react.
Being confident and just going about your business sends the message that all is well and there is nothing to see here.
I’m not sure why, but I’m actually more social and likely to talk to others when out en femme.
Norah
You'll get there, JJ. I've seen your presentation up close and personal and from my perspective, you do a fine job being femme!
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