Tips for Male Bridesmaids

Here are practical and thoughtful tips for male bridesmaids (sometimes called “bridesmen” or “bride's attendants”) to help them confidently support the bride and blend into the wedding party with grace and style—no matter how traditionally feminine or creative the vision may be.

General Role Tips

Honor the Bride’s Vision

You’re there to support her, so whether it’s a pastel suit, matching dress or floral robe—go with the flow and be her champion.

Be Emotionally Present

Bridesmaids are emotional support too. Check in with her often, offer encouragement, and help calm wedding-day jitters.

Help With Traditional Duties

This can include dress shopping, bridal showers, bachelorette parties or helping organize logistics with other attendants. Bring humor, grace and a good playlist.

Outfit Coordination

Blend, But Stay You

Coordinate your look with the bridesmaids without losing your own comfort or identity. If everyone’s wearing lavender, consider a lavender shirt, tie or suit lining.

Dresses? Own It or Adapt It

Open-minded? A dress or gown can be fabulous. Go all-in with shapewear, accessories and heels if the vibe calls for it.

Prefer pants? A chiffon blouse with soft trousers, a flowy jumpsuit or a pastel-colored suit keeps things aligned while staying true to your style.

Shoes Matter

If you’re wearing heels for the first time, practice. Otherwise, chic flats, loafers or even satin sneakers can be perfect with the right attitude.

Beauty & Prep

Participate in Beauty Routines

Join the hair and makeup session—even if it’s just a light touch-up. Manicured nails, light concealer or a dewy glow can elevate your look (and mood).

Confidence is the Best Accessory

Whatever you wear, wear it proudly. You're not a “gimmick”—you’re part of the bride’s chosen circle.

During the Ceremony & Reception

Walk the Walk

Practice your aisle walk if you’re paired with another bridesmaid or groomsman. Walk with poise—heels or no heels.

Speech or Toast? Be Sincere & Lighthearted

Share a loving memory, keep it short and celebrate the bride’s joy. Humor’s great, but avoid embarrassing stories unless you know she’d love it.

Extra Touches

Carry a Clutch or Feminine Detail

If you're dressed femininely, a matching clutch or bouquet completes the look and adds polish.

Embrace the Photos

Pose like a pro. Don’t be shy about group glam shots, bouquet tosses or mirror selfies with the girls.

Post-Wedding, Be Proud

If you're breaking gender norms, remember you’re also expanding what’s possible for others. Celebrate that.

Wearing Boston Proper

Male bride and male bridesmaid