Saturday, December 23, 2017

Wishing To Be A Girl

When I replied to Paula's comment regarding yesterday's image of a young boy telling Santa, "I wish I was a girl," it occurred to me that I do not recall ever wishing I was a girl. I just wanted to do the things that girls did, for example, act like a girl, play like a girl, dress like a girl, etc.

Acting like a girl was easy because I did not have to act. I acted like a girl naturally. And the bullies could not convince me to act otherwise.

Playing like a girl was easy too because I had a sister who was happy to have a playmate for girl play.

Dressing like a girl came later, but once I found the courage to dress like a girl, I was all in.

So I did not wish to be a girl because I was already living as a girl. Yes, I was a boy, but I did not let that stop me from being the best girl I could be.

Wearing Bebe (Source: Bebe)

Santa's helpers
Boys can be Santa's helpers, too!


  1. That was similar to my experience...not an innate "wrong body" feeling, but a draw toward feminine things and a disdain for "boy" things.


  2. Stana

    Interesting observation about liking girl things verses wanting to a girl. But semantics although maybe not.

    In spite of what some in the transgender community will tell you there is no one way to be transgender and too often we are made to think if we don't conform to some trans cultural narrative that we are somehow less.

    Ironic when that is the issue of us all in the transgender community.

    As for me I always wanted to be a girl. When I heard that Christine Jorgensen had an operation. I thought wow, how can I?

    I remember reading somewhere that SRS operations cost $5000.00

    I kept wondering how I was going to earn the money.

  3. When I was very young, I wanted to be a girl, but that was logical:
    1. I wanted to wear dresses and heels and play with girl toys/games
    - and -
    2. Only girls did those things
    - therefore -
    3. I wanted to be a girl.

    Once I realised that wasn't a prerequisite, that urge waned.

  4. In my case, I wished I had been born a girl. I grew up with 2 sisters and 3 brothers. My orientation was to desire girl activities, girl conversations, girl bedroom furnishings, girl toys, girl colors, girl dreams, girl clothes and everything girls wanted and dreamed about. I just wished I had what my sisters had and wanted to be them.