Saturday, February 27, 2016

Primary Femininity

Like Mother, Like Son
I have been reading the old Drag magazines that are accessible at Internet Archive and the following article from a 1978 issue (volume 7, number 26) of the magazine fascinated me.
Boys Should Be Girls
LOS ANGELES  A University of California psychoanalyst says all little boys start life by wishing they were little girls.
This thesis, voice by Dr. Robert Stollar [sic], contradicts the theory of Sigmund Freud, who concluded that all little girls subconsciously wished they were little boys.
Dr. Stollar [sic] told a meeting of the American As­sociation for the Advancement of Science that it was "only natural that all babies would want to be girls because the mother, not the father, is the parent with whom they identify first.''
The doctor says he has treated hundreds of male patients who had trouble switching their ''gender identity" as they grew older. Earlier in life, they had all wanted to be girls, he said.
If this is indeed true, then TVs and TSs are the only people in society who are following their nor­mal God-given urges!
I looked the doctor up and found that he's Dr. Stoller, not Stollar. Wikipedia expands a bit on what the Drag magazine article said.
Drawing on his extensive research with transsexuals and new advances in the science of sex, Stoller advances his belief in "Primary Femininity," the initial orientation of both biological tissue and psychological identification toward feminine development. This early, non-conflictual phase contributes to a feminine core gender identity in both boys and girls unless a masculine force is present to interrupt the symbiotic relationship with the mother.
That fits me perfectly, like a size 14 dress!

Source: MyHabit
Wearing A.B.S. by Allen Schwartz.

Abraham Placencio, Kenneth Ansloan, Matthew Bubb
Abraham Placencio as Angelica del Rio, Kenneth Ansloan as Joan
Crawford and Matthew Bubb as Marilyn Monroe on stage in
The Joan Crawford Marilyn Monroe Christmas Show (1997).


  1. That is such a pretty picture. I still have my stash for old "crossdressing" magazines. This article makes me want to go back and read them again.

    1. There are some interesting and still pertinent things in the old magazines.

  2. This person's writing is very significant, in my opinion. I am not by any means an expert in the medical field but I have read extensively on the development of the human fetus and know that primary sexual characteristics develop in a matter of a few days during the early pregnancy. I have long suspected that if there is anything in the mother's life that presents any drop in hormones, nutrition, or unusual stress it seems possible to be that separation between male and female could be blurred a bit. This in itself would not explain our transgender condition, but if there was even a very small change during those critical days it just makes me believe that a person could have it built into their genetic make-up from the very start. Add to that the fact that all babies are born with their mother's hormones racing through their blood stream at the time of their birth. Who is to say that these hormones and a small problem during pregnancy cemented the condition? I am not looking for excuses or someone to blame, just wondering for those that argue that the entire diagnoses of transgender is a "made up" mental issue. These same detractors are certainly those that think PTSD is a made up thing to excuse bad behavior or blame soldiers and first responders for wanting an excuse for their mental weakness. These are NOT my thoughts but you hear comments of this sort far too often. Great post Stana, thank you for sharing it.

    1. You are welcome, Danielle.