Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Why would anyone want to be a woman?

I am on vacation this week, so instead of new original content each day, I will post old original content, also known as "The Best of Femulate."

2012-03-06Reading "Why I Decided To Become A Woman" yesterday reminded me of an encounter I had with an old friend last May at the Dayton Hamvention.

At Dayton, I sought out old ham radio friends and acquaintances in order to come out to them.

One friend, who I had known for over 30 years was pleased to see me once he recognized me en femme.

He listened attentively to my story. Then he asked some questions, which I answered.

Finally he said to me, "Why would anyone want to be a woman?"

My jaw dropped. I felt like everything I had said to him had gone in one ear and out the other.

It was not a choice. I didn't decide one day that I needed a change of pace and would become a woman. I didn't decide to become transgender to spice up my life.

Life would be so much easier if I was not transgender... if I was not a woman who found herself in a male body.

Like Joy Ladin wrote, "There’s nothing so bad about being a man... as long as you’re a man.”

I'm certainly not a man. That explains why I feel uncomfortable when en homme, but at ease when en femme

And so it goes.






Professional femulator circa 1955 (I love her gown!) 






Wearing Alice and Olivia.


  1. Good point Stana!
    There is a huge difference in "wanting" to be a woman and "having" to be a woman!

  2. Like the gown
    Love the figure

  3. I completely agree with stana and cyrsti. Being transgendered is not a choice but we choose to accept and get on with our lives. Have a wonderful week off!!

  4. AnonymousJuly 29, 2014

    There is absolutely no choice when it comes to my identity gender a side. Never was there a day when I woke up and chose to feel more feminine then masculine. It is in all aspects my id, my ego, and my alter ego. The only issue is to convince society to let me be me. (Though we are making strides) your quoting "there is nothing wrong with being a man as long as you are being a man" is so poignant when it comes to us who are more comfortable in the guise of femininity. No there I nothing ring with being a guy unfortunately for me t feels like an act.

  5. Wow, that was a hell of a story. Really felt close to the heart when he talks about how he revealed he was trans in college, yet his wife continued to expect him to play the "man" role. My wife is pretty accepting of my crossdressing, but I would really wonder what would happen if my urges got the best of me and I decided to transition full time. I really would hope she would support me.