Wednesday, June 24, 2009


Lt. Col. Victor Fehrenbach appeared on The Rachel Maddow Show last night and talked about the US military's "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy.

My wife was watching the show and stated something to the effect that it was not fair that gays were discriminated against by the military because they were born that way and cannot do anything about it just like you were born trans and cannot do anything to about it. She did add that she did not like it (my trans-ness), but she understands that I am not going to change.

My wife never wants to discuss my trans-ness and it made me happy to learn that she does understand my situation.


  1. Sounds like you have a wonderful wife. I watched that clip this morning. He seems like someone I would have been proud to serve with!

  2. AnonymousJune 24, 2009

    I am happy your wife and a deeper understanding... this is difficult for couples -- i have been there. My 2nd wife is deeply understanding, but even then, questions and issues come up. I am grateful for where I am now... i hope that Staci finds a good understanding with her wife too!