Of An Age?
By J. J. Atwell
I’m of an age when hippies roamed the land freely. I suspect most of you are a bit younger than I am, but either way, it really doesn’t matter for this installment of Stuff. I just used that image, created by ChatGPT, to get your attention and lead you to the real point of today’s Stuff.
Getting To The Bottom
We all know that to dress like a woman, we need to (f)emulate a woman’s shape. To be up front about it, my immediate thought goes first to boobs. Yes, that was a pun. I love them. Yes, puns too.
But I’ve covered boobs in several previous installments, so today I’d like to get to the bottom of things and talk about how to simulate hips and a butt to achieve a better femme figure.
In what would have been Stuff #19, which Stana published on November 22, 2023, I talked about Stuff-ing. It was appropriately titled because it appeared right around Thanksgiving. In that installment, I mentioned a few options for hips and butts. Perhaps it’s time to review and revise. So that you don’t have to search for that issue, I’ll quote the applicable parts here:
…some have had good success with oval foam pads on the side and back inserted into their underwear. There are also padded panties that can be bought from many outlets, which are typically padded with foam rubber.
The most realistic hip and bum padding seems to be made of silicone and shaped to enhance the hips and wrap around to the back to enhance the bum. They feel natural and warm up to body temperature. However, they are surprisingly heavy and require a firm undergarment to hold them in place.
Still True?
Yes, I do think this is a good way to get that femme-shaped lower body. In terms of cost, oval foam pads are pretty inexpensive and give a good result. A quick search on Amazon will give you options for under $25. For a bit more, you can find an entire garment with the pads built in as well. If you go that route, be sure the pads are removable for washing.
Keep in mind that your outer clothing might have an impact on what you use. Simple foam pads are fine for loose skirts. But a pencil skirt or tights will look better with hip pads that extend down along the leg, almost to the knee. And your bum will probably need filling out as well. Here again, you can find a complete solution on Amazon for a reasonable price.
What about those expensive silicone pads you see advertised on some of the sites that cater to the CD community? I’ve got a set. They rest comfortably in their foam-lined box, hardly ever getting out.
I manage to get the right look with simpler, less expensive alternatives. The advantage of those silicone pads is that they are lifelike to the touch. I don’t know about you, but I’m not expecting anybody but me to be touching my girly hips or butt! But if that’s important to you, then by all means, go ahead with them.
Just realize, as I mentioned in my original article, that they are heavy and will tend to slide down unless constrained by a tight, long-legged panty — and perhaps some adhesive as well.
I’ll Be Back
Comments are welcome either here on the blog or by email to Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com. JJ is always looking for more stuff, so let me know what you would like to read about.
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How do you cut foam to make your own custom fit pads? A clean, sharp hacksaw blade and a light, steady hand works best. .
ReplyDeleteGood advice Abby! I must admit that my foam pads are just simple ovals, not hand carved. But doing it yourself results in the best custom fit. JJ
DeleteDressing convincingly as a female hippie is one of the more difficult crossdressing challenges. Fabrics and garments of the boho style favored by hippies place a premium on getting the right combinations of clothing and on accurately portraying a female shape. Boho clothing in the hippie style is an art in itself. A accurate shape requires a master of fitted, skin-toned undergarments that press pads and forms into convincing shapes. Whether the outfit includes tight, low hip hugging demon, braless style, or breezy fabrics that cling in all the right places, it takes work to get this right.
ReplyDeleteThanks for reminding me about the low riding hip-huggers Abby. I did love that look. JJ
DeleteI bought some hip-pad panties from TEMU that are serving me well. However, the panties weren't high-waisted enough to keep them from rolling down my waist after a while. So I removed the pads from the panties and wear them over my Spanx and under my pantyhose. They feel lighter that way and do the job of giving me hips, but I do need to find a different arrangement for when I don't wear pantyhose though. Regards, Randi
ReplyDeleteGood adjustment Randi! Yes, finding the right solution can be a bit of trial and error but it will work out in the end. JJ
DeletePersonally, I believe too many are fixated on an exaggerated female form of the hour glass shape. If one looks around there are many women who never conformed to that shape, even before eating their way to a less defined shape. My beautiful granddaughters buys her jeans in the young men section of the store because they fit better than those in the women's section. I tried butt and hip enhancements and found them uncomfortable. No matter how they may look for the viewer, they did not feel anything like real skin and fat. I am a wearer of dresses. Not a pair of pants in my femme wardrobe. For me, the best option are empire waste or sheath dress that obscure the lack of the hour glass shape. Seems to me that most admirers of the female form have eyes that go directly to the boobs.
ReplyDeleteYes, you are certainly right that the female form comes in many different shapes. For those of us not born that way though it helps to emulate the main-stream female rather than standing out. JJ
DeleteI tried some cheap sillicone pads and they gave me a very nice shape to the hips and a little to the but. They rest in the drawer now because they ripped after the second use. Next time I will pay a little more and maybe get a better quality
ReplyDeleteGood luck on the nicer ones. Hope you find your ideal shape. JJ
DeleteI bought padded panties from Lee G, Brewster's in NYC over 35 years ago. They worked okay. Then a drag queen in St. Louis taught us crossdressers how to make custom hip pads using upholstery foam and an electric carving knife. These worked the best. About 25 years ago I bought the early version of the silicon hip pads from Jim Bridges Boutique in Los Angeles. They were okay but had many drawbacks, sat in a drawer forever until I threw them out. A waste of over $300. Buyer Beware.
ReplyDeleteAngel Amore
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Your experience with the silicon pads mirrors my own, more recent experience. I still have mine around, not knowing what to do with them. JJ
DeleteAll I need to do to achieve a feminine profile is to lose weight! I already have the boobs and the hips, but I need to win the Battle of the Bulge. I need to walk everyday, which is a challenge in the Dallas-Fort Worth area due to the heat and humidity. I need to get up EARLY while the weather is somewhat tolerable. And I need to cut down on my EATING.
ReplyDeleteJohn
It seems that we all fight that battle of the bulge. I'm a good 15 pounds heavier than I should be. I vow to loose weight nearly every morning I get on the scale. But to no avail. JJ
DeleteHappy to see this topic get some attention. As a femulator myself, I'm constantly surprised - and not just a little bit disappointed - by the number of other femulators I know and meet while out and about that make essentially *zero* effort to pad/shape out their hips. It's easier, sure, but the inverted-triangle look is rarely flattering when combined with most feminine finery.
ReplyDeleteLong ago, I started out with the basics as well: inexpensive foam-based items from Amazon and eBay and... elsewhere overseas. The results were hit and miss, but mostly miss. Occasionally adequate appearance-wise, but rarely of any quality or durability. I went through a lot of trial and error before finally graduating to a silicone-based solution, and I regret nothing!
I can say - as a thrilled customer, with absolutely no vested interest beyond that customer satisfaction - that I have achieved amazing and convincing results with the wide line-up of offerings from Bubbles Bodywear (www.lovemybubbles.com) including especially their somewhat-ironically named Hipee hip/butt combo padded panty.
Combined with their other offerings in the spandex-waist-nipper category, the results are surprisingly good and I never get dolled up without my Bubbles! There's just no substitute for a nice 🍑.
Thanks for sharing your experience Jamie! I'll have to look into the Bubbles Bodywear site. JJ
DeleteWhen I was about 17 my girlfriend and I dressed up as Hippies for a costume party only I went as the girl and she went as the guy. It was her mom's idea because we both had long hair which was about the same length. I wore one of her mother's floral white skirts which was light enough that I needed to wear one of her slips underneath along with a white blouse with some kind of colorful trim and lace. I wore pantyhose too along with a stuffed bra of hers.
ReplyDeleteOf course my girlfriend and her mom had no idea I'd dressed up as a girl before and I tried not to give hints at the time which might reveal how much fun I was having.