Saturday, August 27, 2011


"My name is Stana."

I received an e-mail yesterday afternoon from a reader who posted a comment earlier in the day, but wondered if she had done something wrong because her comment had not appeared on the blog.

I work Monday through Friday, 7 AM to 4 PM (more or less), and my workplace filters Internet content (in a willy-nilly fashion). As a result, I cannot access the comment moderation function to approve/disapprove comments posted during the work day.

Only after I get home and get on my home computer, can I moderate your comments. So, if your weekday comments do not appear right after you post them, now you know why.

Speaking of comments, after reading your comments regarding my Halloween costume plans, I am reconsidering. I still plan to go to work en femme, but now I am considering office wear again dressing as a "highly successful business woman in the power skirt suit, heels, etc.," as Jaye Anne suggested.

That costume choice would be easy as I already have all the fixings to put that costume together. On the other hand, a stewardess cap and wings can quickly convert office wear into flight attendant wear, so I have not ruled out "coffee, tea, or me" yet.

No matter what I wear, anyone at work who wondered about my gender after seeing my previous two "office girl" costumes will have no doubt where my gender is after October 31. And so be it; it could break ground for a transition at work.

Meanwhile, I battened down the hatches last night and await the arrival of Hurricane Irene.

We are in the cross-hairs of the predicted path of the storm and when it hits us on Sunday, we may lose power. If that occurs, Femulate will be on hiatus until power returns (although my computer is battery-powered, my Wi-Fi is not).

And so it goes.


  1. I think a civilian would look at man-as-office-girl (or female executive) as a costume a man would wear. A man-as-stewardess or man-as-hooters-girl or man-as-Xena would be seen as a costume a woman would wear.

    When I wore my dress to work, I told people there that the rule is, you should "dress for the job you want, not the job you have" and this is how my boss, Naomi, dresses.

    Of course, three times is the same as wearing a sign that says "THIS IS MORE THAN A HALLOWEEN COSTUME!"

    an aside: smartphone? Look into tethering so you're more likely to be connected through the storm.

  2. Hope your antennae are secure

  3. Meg --- Three times will probably do it, but that's OK by me.

    No smartphones here. We are so old school when it comes to phones.

  4. Jenn --- I tightened the tower guy wires last night. Then I shook the tower and it did not budge, so I did what I can.

  5. I think people will be afraid to ask, in case they're wrong. It'll be interesting to see if they do.

    Imagine how you'd feel if you asked someone about something offbeat and got it wrong. Asking "do you regularly crossdress" to someone who doesn't would be really awkward. So would asking about a (normally hidden) piercing or tattoo to someone who seems straitlaced. Or if they swing, or are into, say, B&D, or....

    Even saying "when's the baby due?" to someone who's just been letting herself go is pretty uncomfortable.

    But when I showed my old boss, the Naomi I mentioned in my earlier comment, a picture of Meg she asked "was this for a party, or is it something you do, sometimes?" I thought that was the perfect way of asking. And I 'fessed up.