Wednesday, August 3, 2016

My Favorite Things Come in Pairs

The first item of women's clothing I ever wore were a pair of my mother's nylon stockings. I recall looking in the floor-length mirror mounted on the inside of her closet door and admiring my pre-puberty hairless legs believing that they looked just like women's legs!

With my mother's closet door wide open, I noticed the stack of shoe boxes on the closet floor and I suddenly felt motivated to try on a pair of her high heel pumps. I opened a random box and found a pair in a floral fabric with a 3-inch heel. I slipped on the heels and they fit perfectly.

I looked in the mirror and the combination of nylons and high heels was exhilarating! Not only did my legs look like women's legs, but now they looked shapely and sexy, too!

I have been a big fan of high heels ever since. When en femme, I seldom wear anything else on my feet. Unless the occasion absolutely screams for flats, I wear heels.

Once upon a time, I thought that at 6-feet-2, wearing heels would make it more difficult to pass. But I came to the realization that if I can pass at 6-foot-2 wearing flats, then I can pass at 6-foot-6 wearing 4-inch heels.

I love wearing heels. They make my legs look more shapely and more importantly, I feel more feminine, more lady-like wearing heels. I know it’s my late-1950s/early-1960s socialization that makes me feel this way, but that's me and I'm not changing shoe styles at this late date.

Genetic females often compliment me about my proficiency in walking in heels and ask if it was difficult learning how. Truth is that I took to heels like Daisy Duck took to heels.

As a child, my mother often mentioned that I walked on my tiptoes. I assumed that walking on my tiptoes was not the way a male was supposed to walk, but nobody ever taught me the "correct" way to walk. So I took the path of least resistance and continued to walk on my tiptoes.

I believe that my penchant for walking on my tiptoes made walking in high heels a natural thing to do. True or not, from day one, I never had a problem walking in heels.

Heels hurt. I have high heels that begin hurting as soon as I slip them on and I have heels that I can wear all day with little or no pain. I discovered that the height of the heel is not critical as far as pain is concerned. Some of my most comfortable shoes have 4-inch stiletto heels. Go figure!

Wearing heels makes my femulation complete. Despite the pain, I will never give up wearing heels; you will have to remove my high heels from my cold, dead feet.

Source: Intermix
Wearing Miguelina Camelia top and skirt and Rag & Bone hat.

Roger Sloman
Roger Sloman femulates in British television's Eastenders.
(Thank you, Meg, for suggesting this femulator!)


  1. I agree about the heels completing a more feminine appearance. In much the same way, I prefer skirts/dresses when in femme mode - if I am going to wear pants I might as well stay in drab mode.

    1. Dear Julie,

      I agree completely regarding always wearing a skirt or dress when femulating. I also always wear a full slip or half slip and camisole, even though most skirts and dresses have inner liners that preclude the need for wearing a slip ... I don't care ... I just adore nylon-tricot lace-trimmed slips and camisoles.

      I bought a pair of ladies slacks at the urging of many of my CD sisters. They fit perfectly, but I never in 2 years ever wanted to wear them out, even if I wore high heels and my girliest panties and cami under the slacks. Finally, after having them just hang in the closet for a couple of years, I donated them to charity.



  2. It's the fit. A pair of heels that fit well will hurt less, if at all. But the impact (pain) of any POORLY fitting areas are magnified. And don't assume a 9 from one maker is a 9 from another.... try them on. If they hurt at first, don't buy them. 4" heels that fit are much more comfortable than 1" that do not.

  3. Hi Stana

    First of all, Thank You for you wonderful blog, and for the word 'Femulate' !

    Oddly enough (or maybe not) I also first walked on my toes. In fact I walked on my toes so much that I wore out the toes of my baby shoes. Just the toe area of my shoes had to be resoled - the rest of the shoe was good for further service.

    Thanks Again