Monday, June 8, 2015

More Questions

As I mentioned here last month that I participated in Trans*forming the Dialogue, Simmons College’s Online MSW Program’s campaign to promote an educational conversation about the transgender community. By participating, I offered my perspective on what TO ask and what NOT to ask trans*people.

To promote all of the responses the campaign has received so far, they published a list of direct links to each response in their First Voices Roundup

They will continue to add on to the roundup through June as more bloggers, experts, editors in the transcommunity weigh in, so please pass the questions & intro along to your contacts online! They want to hear from everyone!

Mondays, Mondays

Usually, I compose my Femulate posts the day before they are posted. Then I option Blogger to automatically publish the post shortly after midnight local time (while I am getting my beauty rest).

But lately, Monday's are different. Due to my spouse's worsening health, I have had to take on more of our home's housework. I spend most of my weekends in the housewife role doing the laundry, cleaning the house and buying the groceries in addition to the stuff I always did like maintaining the nest, fixing what's broke, cutting the lawn, etcetera, etcetera.

As a result, I have little time and/or I am too tired to compose Monday's post (or even answer emails) during the weekend. So I have been composing my Monday posts early Monday mornings before I start work. Instead of publishing posts around midnight, I publish them as soon as I am done; "Hot off the press," as they used to say, which can be anywhere between 8 and 10 AM Eastern time Monday. 

And so it goes!

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Actor Jeffrey Lico
Actor Jeffrey Licon (left) in a 2009 episode of television's The Closer


  1. Stana,

    I continue to be amazed at the parallels in our lives, our age, background, education and even the fact that our wives suffer from the same physical ailment.

    My wife long feared my dressing and while the kids lived home she was always worried that they would find out about me. She was a great mother...always protective of the kids. She did everything for them but from time to time would quip that she wished she had a 'spare wife'.

    After the kids got out of the house my dressing ease increased in large part because I was happy to take on the role of 'spare wife' around the house. While she may never understand the allure of dressing in hose, heels, wig and makeup to run the vacuum or to spend a day in the kitchen cutting veggies and cooking up a storm but my being the 'spare wife' is in part the key to her acceptance and tolerance. After all a well cleaned house or well cooked meal does not know the attire of the maid or chef.

    While she is comfortable with me dressed around the house she still have fears if I go out while dressed but on one of my permitted visits to Triangles as I was dressing she went into her jewelry box and gave me a pair of clip on earrings to wear. She has pierced ears and I never saw her wear clip ons but she had them from a long time ago, perhaps from her mother. I was very touched by the love that she conveyed from this simple gesture.


    1. That was a very nice gesture, Pat. I am sure you will never forget it.

  2. Ooh.. I remember that episode! I was so amazed! :)