Friday, June 19, 2015

Dressing to Please Yourself

Due to recent events, I am in no frame of mind to write original posts for this blog, so I plan to run "The Best of Femulate" until I feel better. Today's "Best" is from October 2011 and discusses how to dress  appropriately or otherwise.

The topic of Ginger Burr's blog this week is "Please Yourself First" when it comes to deciding what to wear and dealing with people who criticize your wardrobe decisions. 

"Generally speaking when you feel fabulous about how you look (even if others do not totally agree), their unsolicited comments have much less charge to them."

Her words are applicable to cisgender and trangender woman alike and I highly recommend reading them.

Unless there is something technically wrong with what I am wearing, like a run in my pantyhose, I ignore negative comments about my choice of dress. If I am happy with the way I look, that is what matters to me and I will be comfortable in my skins.

When I went to the mall the other day, I thought I was one of the best dressed customers, male or female, in the mall (at least in comparison to the ones I saw). 

Do you realize how empowering that is?

You just want to strut your stuff. And if someone checks you out, you know why  because your dress is attractive, you stand out in the crowd. People are thinking that she or he really knows how to put herself or himself together.

Now I don't recommend wearing an evening gown and tiara to go shopping at the mall. Instead, dress a little over the top, but in a way that is plausible. For example, my mallwear was plausible for a businesswoman shopping or working at the mall. And that's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Which reminds me, when I was wandering through the racks in Nordstrom on an outing earlier this year, a woman came up to me and asked me a question because she thought I was a Nordstrom saleswoman.

And so it goes.

Source: Boston Proper
Wearing Boston Proper

Source: Pinterest
Womanless beauty pageant contestant number 6


  1. AnonymousJune 19, 2015

    Stand your dedication to your blog and your readers is always above and beyond! Take what ever time you need! And I hope you can come to a smooth and safe landing and with hope and joy still in your mind after what ever it is that had you feeling as you do! Thank you! It's always a pleasure reading your thoughts on a subject that is near and dear to all of our hearts! Hugs

  2. I hope what ever is going on works out for the best for you, sending positive thoughts your way.

  3. AnonymousJune 20, 2015

    Thinking of you, dear Stana, and wishing you sunnier skies and happiness ahead in all ways.

  4. I want you back because I simply enjoy reading what you write. I miss you. Get well soonest, Stana!

  5. Wishing you good thoughts for a healthy healing for whatever ails you. We all miss you and want only the best!