We make choices everyday.
(Boxers, briefs, or panties? Yogurt or bagel? Bra or bra-less? Regular or decaf?)
Some choices are more important than others and some have long-term ramifications.
(Should I be a doctor, a lawyer or a fire chief? Should I marry her, him or it?)
Sometimes our choices backfire and sometimes our choices are just plain wrong and we suffer the consequences, but we are still free to choose whatever we want.
So why can't we choose our gender?
Despite all the scientific evidence to the contrary, the anti-transgender crowd claims that transgenders choose to be transgender just like the anti-gay crowd claims that gays choose to be gay. And according to those crowds, making those choices is wrong.
I am a feminine man. My speech and mannerisms are a bad fit in boy mode, but in girl mode, I am a perfect fit.
I could man up and never wear a dress again, but I chose not to do male drag. So, yes, I made a choice to live authentically and not fit in with the boys.
But what if I was not transgender?
What if I was a guy with no gender issues, who carefully weighed all the options and decided that living my life as a woman was preferable to living my life as a man. And as a result, I chose to live my life as a woman.
What's wrong with that?
I say, "Absolutely nothing."
It is just another choice. Admittedly, it is an big choice with a lot of long-term ramifications, but humans make important choices everyday. That's why God gave us intelligence and free will ― so that we can make choices ― like choosing our gender.
|Street style, New York City, April 2015|