Stuff 107: Your Focus

By J.J. Atwell

Looking at Yourself

When you look at your femme self in the mirror do you find yourself focusing on one particular thing? Perhaps your hair? Your legs? Your boobs? Whatever your answer is, I’m curious if it’s the same thing that you notice in a GG or another CD. That’s assuming that you are otherwise a straight male. I’m going to ruminate on my physical focusing for a bit.

I Notice…

As an otherwise typical guy attracted to women, the term “breast man” probably best applies to me. Yes, I notice a woman’s boobs first. I am guilty of that. Maybe I notice her smile first. I know that other guys might be leg men or butt men. Or that they may appreciate some other female physical aspect. 

Having said that, when I look at my femme self, one of the things that I pay attention to is how my boobs look. Are they proportionate to my frame? Too big? Too small? Too close together? Too high? And then I think about all the GGs I’ve seen in the real world. Surprise! There is no “typical” female form. So why do I stress so much about JJ’s boobs? Good question. One that I have no answer for other than it pleases me. 

What Do You Notice?

I’m curious about what you notice most. When you first see a CD, what feature do you notice most? I’m also curious as to how that correlates with your natural reaction when you first see a woman. 

I guess for me it actually varies quite a bit. I might be interested in their outfit if it’s particularly attractive and would then wonder if it was something that my femme self could/should wear. I might also be attracted by their hair style or perhaps shoes. 

A word of caution when checking out GGs or other CDs, be discrete! It’s really not polite to stare. I know I shouldn’t have to say that, but many women have complained about men talking to their boobs rather than their face. Don’t be a boob!

Back to Boobs

Yes, I’ve got more to say about boobs. Way back in Stuff #9 which Stana published on September 11, 2023 and a follow up in Stuff #13 published on October 9, 2023, I wrote about selecting the “right” boobs, which impacts what bra to get.

Today I’d like to pass along a resource I found about selecting the right bra. You can find many different answers to this question with a Google search, some of which will conflict with others. So it’s no wonder that so many women wear the wrong bra. If they get it wrong, how are we CDs supposed to know which bra to pick? 

The other day while perusing the NPR website I spotted this fun story: “How to find a bra that fits: An illustrated guide.” It references the owner of a store in NYC called the “Rack Shack.” I got a chuckle from that name. But more seriously, it’s a really good explanation of all the different styles of bras and what is important for each of them. It doesn’t attempt to say which bra is “right.” It just explains what the difference considerations are for the woman (or CD) that wears them. It turns out there is a reason there are so many options when it comes to bras.

I’ll Be Back

I’ll be finding more Stuff to write about. I welcome comments and suggestions here on Stana’s page or by email at Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com.

Wearing Shein

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