Friday, November 20, 2020

Men are from Mars, but they can wear Venus

By Jeanine Williams

I was prompted to write this Femulate entry when I saw the lovely Carollyn Olson’s photo wearing the “Lace Detail Sweater Dress” from Venus that I also own and am pictured wearing here as well. 

I emailed Stana a few weeks ago after noticing that she featured several Venus items in the Femulate. I told her that I had mixed results with Venus sizing, so she encouraged me to write about it, but mentioned that she was happy with her selections.

I purchased this dress because I love sweater dresses, love the color and felt it was eye-catching, elegant and very feminine. Nevertheless I returned my XL for a 1X because it was too tight in the bust and underarms even though I was already swimming in it below the bodice. My wife, a professional seamstress, told me she can always take something in, so ordering a larger size is better in the long run. She’s altered several things for me, so I count myself lucky to have a spouse who not only approves of and assists me in my femulating endeavors!

Lots and lots of room in the 1X, which she took it in, but there was still way too much fabric to provide the silhouette I was trying to achieve, that the lovely Venus model accomplishes so nicely. That’s the reason for the belt. I didn’t have a briefer or bra that has detachable straps to allow me to use the clear ones I bought for this dress, so please try to overlook that.

The back of the dress is bunched and folded and held in place by the belt, so it does make for a nice look that way and I may still wear it with the belt after the second round of alterations. It is comfortable to wear, although the lace can be a bit scratchy. I would not consider it a quality garment, even though it has the appearance of one. It’s sized from XS to 3X, so Venus accommodates those of us like to wear the nice-looking skirts and dresses that usually stop at size 14 with other retailers.

If I had to change something about this dress it would be to lower or reduce the fabric at the neckline a little. I’ll discuss that a bit more with my comments on the “Glitter Bodycon Dress” that I’m also writing about, but it’s generally appealing as is and I like the hem of my skirts and dresses a few inches above my knees. I hope to wear it out and about in the future, but the verdict isn’t in yet.

My next review is the Glitter Bodycon Dress, which I had better luck with. It’s an XL and fits much better as it’s just a little bit too big for me below the waist.  In the photo, I’m using my left hand to sweep the extra inch or two behind me so that I can get that bodycon silhouette – so that’s on the list for an alteration.

I don’t like the higher neckline though and want to see if my wife can reduce or eliminate it and just leave the mesh insert. The other minor issue for me is that the dress gathers at the hem between the legs, which I’d prefer it didn’t, but it’s been designed that way and is part of the look. I’ll get used to that.  It’s a New Year's Eve or party dress, but it doesn’t look like I’ll be attending either this year.

My personal preference is a V or scoop neckline because it gives more area for the viewer to cast their gaze upon and takes away from emphasizing my face. I like to include my neck and a few inches below that in my appearance – it seems to round out my total look and tends to center the gaze of others on a larger area rather than concentrate on just my facial features. I think it also expresses confidence by showing a bit more of yourself, but then again I’m fortunate as I have a small Adam’s apple, so I don’t need to worry about that.

I think Venus is likely aware of the crossdressing community, based on some of their offerings. Although they don’t seem to market to us directly, I suspect we’re part of their target audience because of the extra large sizes, the ruched styling, the high necklines to hide the Apple of Adam and certainly, the hip and sultry look of their designs. If any of you know about their company policies please, do tell.

It occurred to me as I wrap this up that it would be wonderful and a service to Femulate readers for other women readers, as Stana does from time to time, to describe your purchase experiences and insights – what’s your favorite outfit, did it fit, was it sized right, was it worth the price, how does it make you look and feel and would you buy another item from the company? 

Happy Thanksgiving!


Wearing Metrostyle
Wearing Metrostyle

Gabriel Sanches femulating in the 2017-2018 Brazilian television series Pega Pega (The Big Catch)
Gabriel Sanches femulating in the 2017-2018 Brazilian television series Pega Pega (The Big Catch)


  1. Thanks for the review. I also buy a lot (and I mean a lot) of clothes from Venus. They are my go to site after having been in the game for 30+ years. I favor bodycon dresses yet will buy some ultra-fem tops and dresses. What I need for me is deep V neck cuts to draw attention from a large male head and neck. Otherwise, my athletic male body works well in Venus clothes when I have appropriate foundations and padding.
    Angel Amore

  2. I've started buying from Venus after seeing so many adorable outfits on this site, so Stana should certainly be getting some free clothes because of this! I recently bought a belted sweater dress in size 8 and it was too small. Size 10-12, which I think it is, was a better fit but was a little too big in certain areas that you wouldn't expect. I also purchased another dress that when I got it seems like it is for more formal affairs, which, unfortunately, none of us will be attending anytime soon. I do like you idea of sharing shopping experiences. I did return the small sweater dress and ordered a new one via phone and all was good as I was speaking in a feminine voice - until I gave the name on my credit card and the operator then decided to call me "sir." I don't know if that is a legal thing to cover themselves in case they think some woman has biffed another person's card, but I wasn't too crazy about the customer service agent saying that. A small inconvenience, however, for the chance to purchase such cute outfits.

  3. P.S. I love the title of this blog post!

  4. Thanks to you both for your response and sorry for the delay in doing so. I find myself forgetting how to log into my Google account. Annonymous, I think you will see a blue v neck wrap bodysuit in the Venus catalog that you may find interesting. Jasmine, I can recall being a size 12 - 15 years ago, so I'm quite envious!