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Wearing Ann Klein

Matteo Cetinski femulating Madonna on Croatian television.
Click here to view this femulation on YouTube.

Fear

A reader asked, “Could you discuss the fear of telling your wife that you are a crossdresser, especially when you and your wife are conservatives?”

A healthier way to frame the conversation—particularly in conservative marriages—is to avoid presenting crossdressing as “this is who I really am.” A more accurate and less threatening approach is: “This is one part of me that I’ve struggled to talk about, and I want to be honest because I respect our marriage.”

Several points often matter deeply in conservative relationships. You are not asking to leave the marriage, not rejecting your masculinity or your role as a husband, not demanding instant acceptance and you are choosing honesty over secrecy.

It’s important to remember that silence may protect a marriage in the short term, but secrecy often damages it in the long term. Even conservative wives frequently care more about trust, stability, and being included than about strict ideological purity.

If you’re not ready to tell her yet, that doesn’t make you weak or dishonest—it means you’re cautious. Still, it’s worth asking yourself a few questions:

• What am I afraid she will assume?
• Are those assumptions actually true?
• What would I want her to understand first if I did tell her?

The answers often point toward a calmer, more intentional conversation when the time comes.

Being conservative does not mean being incapable of compassion or nuance. Many conservative wives struggle at first—not because they stop loving their husband, but because they need time to reconcile something unexpected with the man they trust. The fear you’re feeling is understandable. It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It means you care deeply about your marriage and the values you share.

Wearing Cynthia Rowley

Matteo Cetinski femulating Jelena Rozga on Croatian television’s Your Face Sounds Familiar. Click here to view this femulation on YouTube.

My Favorite Things

Smoothing the back of my skirt as I sit down.

Pencil skirts.

Crossing my legs and letting a high-heel pump dangle from the tip of my stockinged foot.

Carrying a purse—my purse.

Taking a compact from it to touch up my makeup.

Wearing high heels.

Hearing the click of those heels as I walk.

Being called “Ma’am.”

Better yet… being called “Miss.”

Wrap dresses.

A complete stranger stopping to say, “I like your dress,” or compliment something else I’m wearing.

Shopping in a clothing store that opens a dressing room just for me—and displays my name on the door.

Shopping, period.

When a man holds the door open for me.

Dangly earrings.

Lipstick.

Admiring glances.

My shaved legs.

A scarf draped just right.

And realizing that when I present as a woman, it comes so naturally I don’t have to think about it at all.

Wearing Paige

Philippe Noiret femulating in the 1969 film Justine.

Stuff #106: Friend or Foe

By J.J. Atwell

Reflections Can Be Helpful or Damaging

Let’s consider the lowly mirror. Or its close cousin the camera. The can be a CD’s best friend. Or they could be a foe.

I regularly exchange emails with a GG friend on various subjects that pop up in life and here on Stuff. She made a comment recently that I think is pretty profound. “We are our own best audience” is what she said. I’d add to that that we are also our own worst critic. 

The Mirror

When we look in the mirror and see our femme presentation it can give us a real thrill. It can be nice to see a pretty lady looking back at you. But it can also be a bit of a disappointment if that lady doesn’t measure up to your standards. 

Mirrors are great for instant gratification. You see yourself in the moment. With some good lighting, I hope. You can stand there and stare at yourself, concentrating on specific areas. You can move closer for the details. Or you can step back to see the overall look. Mirrors also make it harder to get anywhere because every time you pass one you need to stop and look. Maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration. 

The Camera

Similar to the mirror, the camera is a great tool for judging our femme presentation. It has the advantage of being able to take in more of the whole you. You cannot only see the front of you, but you can also get the side and back. Something that’s not so easy with a mirror, unless you have one of those three panel mirrors you see in stores. 

The camera has a big advantage over the mirror. Memory. Using a camera allows you to document how your look evolves over time and experience as you dress more. I keep pictures of myself going back several years. It’s interesting to look back and see how I’ve changed. Sometimes I decide to give a particular outfit another try. Or a different hair style. Having the photos is better than my own memory. 

I’ll Be Back

I’d love to hear if you think your mirror is a friend or foe. The “drawing” of me above was created using ChatGPT and is derived from one of my photos. As always, comments are welcome either here on the blog or by email to Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com. JJ is always looking for more stuff so if there is something you would like to read about, please let me know.

Wearing Ann Taylor

Rachel, a Femulate reader

Wardrobe Waggery

 

On the Tube

As a long-time Patriots fan, I’ve spent the past few weekends watching most of the NFL playoff games. While the pigskin is being passed around, I usually have my MacBook on my lap, tinkering with one thing or another between kicks and during commercial breaks.

“One thing or another” generally means roaming around YouTube—hunting for interesting clips or revisiting videos I’ve enjoyed before. Below are a few favorites. Enjoy!

Audrius Janonis

I absolutely love the outfit Audrius wears in this video. Click here to view it.

Barbara Melzer, Artur Chamski & Krzysztof Szczepaniak

This one genuinely stumped me—two men and one woman, and I couldn’t tell which was which. Click here to view the video.

Luiza Possi

Simply put: this video is sexy. Click here to view it.

Judy Canova

Soldiers parading onstage in what passes for 1942 haute couture. Click here to view the video.

Le Sorelle Marinetti

An Italian swing trio featuring three delightfully femulating male singers. Click here to view the video.

Wearing Shein

Jorge Enrique Abello femulating in Columbia television’s En los tacones de Eva.