Friday, April 9, 2021

Why Would Anyone Want To Be A Woman?

When I came out to my ham radio friends and acquaintances, almost everyone was supportive. 

One friend, who I had known for over 35 years was pleased to see me once he recognized me en femme.

He listened attentively to my story. Then he asked some questions, which I answered.

Finally he said to me, “Why would anyone want to be a woman?”

My jaw dropped. I felt like everything I had said to him had gone in one ear and out the other.

It was not a choice. I didn’t decide one day that I needed a change of pace and would become a woman. I didn’t decide to become a woman to spice up my life.

Life would be so much easier if I was not a woman who found herself in a male body.

Like author Joy Ladin wrote, “There’s nothing so bad about being a man... as long as you’re a man.”

I'm certainly not a man. Never was. That explains why I feel uncomfortable when en homme, but at ease when en femme

Anyway, I did not unfriend my old friend for asking that question. I look forward to seeing him and we still interact with each other the same way we did before my coming out.  

And so it goes.

Wearing Guilty of Glam
Wearing Guilty of Glam

Christian De Sica femulating in the 2018 Italian film Amici Come Prima (Friends Like Before)
Christian De Sica femulating in the 2018 Italian film Amici Come Prima (Friends Like Before). If you search YouTube for Amici Come Prima, you will find a number of film clips from the movie.


  1. Stana
    It sounds like you friend has been listening and is trying to get a clearer understanding of the situation

  2. Dearest Stana ,    I have Complete Understanding of this wonderful article you posted today about being yourself .

  3. Too Funny Stana

    He missed the point about heels, lingerie and short skirts and it was not a choice for you

    I was born to be a Ham hihi

    We need a Ham Radio Femme Net on 80 meters and we can start with What
    ‘s new in your closet? How to tune your heels for improved walking longer and farther, getting ready for out and about during Sunspots 25 and choosing the right make up when up for a night of MW dxing


  4. The Better question is " Why wouldn't anyone want to be a woman ". So inspiring to hear your story!! A+++

    1. Well , most people really don't Understand our Very Loved Feminine Desires to feel ourselves !