Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Dress Yourself

"Please Yourself First" was the topic of Ginger Burr's blog a few years ago and it is still applicable today when it comes to deciding what to wear and dealing with people who criticize your wardrobe decisions.

"Generally speaking when you feel fabulous about how you look (even if others do not totally agree), their unsolicited comments have much less charge to them."

Her words are applicable to cisgender and trangender woman alike and I highly recommend reading them.

Unless there is something technically wrong with what I am wearing, like a run in my stockings, I ignore negative comments about my choice of dress. If I am happy with the way I look, that is what matters to me and I will be comfortable in my skins.

When I went to the mall the other day, I thought I was one of the best dressed customers, male or female, in the mall (at least in comparison to the ones I saw).

Do you realize how empowering that is?

You just want to strut your stuff. And if someone checks you out, you know why ― because your dress is attractive, you stand out in the crowd. People are thinking that she or he really knows how to put herself or himself together.

Now I don't recommend wearing an evening gown and tiara to go shopping at the mall. Instead, dress a little over the top, but in a way that is plausible. For example, my mallwear was plausible for a businesswoman shopping or working at the mall. And that's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Which reminds me, when I was wandering through the racks in Nordstrom on an outing earlier this year, a woman came up to me and asked me a question because she thought I was a Nordstrom saleswoman.

And so it goes.

Source: Bebe
Wearing Bebe (Source: Bebe)

womanless beauty pageant contestant
This is not your typical civilian participating in a womanless beauty pageant. Instead of wearing a wig, she had her natural hair curled and styled. Brava! 


  1. To paraphrase Ricky Nelson in "Garden Party"
    "You can't please everyone,so
    You've got to please yourself".
    His words, while old, will always ring true.

    While my experience out and about is not as extensive as yours I have always found that women were quick, real and genuine in their compliments of my outfits and look. They would also offer friendly, helpful hints on makeup, etc. Men...not so much.

  2. And then there may be the occasional fellow shopper who would ask your advice on their wardrobe choices. Of course, I've also had the same thing happen in the grocery store, and I once took the time to write out a whole recipe for a woman. I must really look like a Suzy Homemaker! The truth is, though, that I am confident and comfortable with how I look, and that comes across as being approachable.

    1. You know your passing when that happens!

  3. Speaking of Nordstrom, What ever happened to the employment opportunity with Dress Barn/Roz & Ali? You would really make a good sales person...

    1. Dress Barn closed three local stores and filled any open positions with salespeople who staffed the closed stores.