Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Conquering High Heels

Walking gracefully in high heels is probably in the top five on the difficulty list for most femulators. A WhoWhatWear article by Kat Collings attempts to make this difficult task less difficult. If you follow Kat's advice, you can become a femme fatale in high heels.

The following summarizes Kat's advice followed by my comments

๐Ÿ‘  The easiest way to look like an amateur in heels is to put your whole foot down at once as if you’re wearing flats. When wearing heels, put your heel down first, followed by your toe. This will make your walk look more natural. –Kat

In other words, don't walk tippy-toed. –Stana

๐Ÿ‘  Wearing heels makes your stride shorter than normal, so you’ll have to take an increased number of small steps to go the same distance. We’re not recommending baby steps, but don’t try to take your usual long strides either. –Kat

Don't walk like a man. –Stana

๐Ÿ‘  Trying to walk quickly in heels often ends up looking quite awkward. Between the smaller steps and the compromised balance, it’s best to take your time in heels. Besides, walking slowly gives off an air of confidence. –Kat

That is, femme fatale confidence. –Stana

๐Ÿ‘  You may find you want to walk faster than your heels will allow, and end up craning your neck forward to compensate. This ends up looking strange, so allow yourself to lean just the slightest bit back when walking in heels, as this will counteract your inclination to lean forward. –Kat

Walk too fast in heels and you may trip yourself and get hurt (been there, done that). –Stana

๐Ÿ‘  When you want to draw a straight line, you’ll get better results if you look at your end point as you draw, rather than looking at your pencil as it moves. Similarly, when walking in heels, you’ll walk more gracefully if you look at your goal point (maybe it’s the podium at the end of the stage), and visualize a straight line going toward your end point, rather than looking down at your heels as you walk.–Kat

Looking down at your heels also makes you look suspicious, as if you are trying to hide in plain sight. This just brings more attention to yourself  (what's she trying to hide?), may cause civilians to examine you more closely and possibly blow your femulation (another been there, done that). –Stana

๐Ÿ‘  As you take each step, or if you feel yourself slipping, arch your foot slightly to put pressure on the inside of your shoe. This will make your shoe fit closer to your foot, making it easier to maneuver. –Kat

Until I read Kat's tip, I didn't realize that I was doing this subconsciously.–Stana

๐Ÿ‘  If your shoes are ill-fitting, it makes the difficult task of walking naturally in heels almost impossible. If your heels are too big, use shoe pads for a better fit. If they are too small, consider having them stretched by a local cobbler, or try this hack to stretch them yourself. –Kat

If your shoes are well-constructed, a proper fit extends the length of time that wearing the heels will be comfortable. Also, it is very embarrassing to have a loose shoe slip off your foot while you are strutting your stuff (yet another been there, done that). –Stana

Source: Venus
Wearing Venus.

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  1. Sally StoneMarch 29, 2017

    Stana, I might also add that practice makes perfect, and it may be helpful to practice walking like a woman before actually putting on heels. Conquer your natural feminine gait first, then add high heels. I think that really helps.

  2. Dear Stana,

    It took me quite a number of years to incorporate all these heel-walking tips. Since many of us are at least 200 pounds, the hardest thing to get used to is the "heel down first / then toe" technique. I used to be afraid of this because I worried about my 200+ pound weight breaking the heels off. Once I became confident that high heels are ENGINEERED to handle a large load right on the heels, and would not break off, I started using the "heel down first" technique, and walking in heels became much easier and more natural. This was the single most important thing that improved me walking in heels immensely. The "slight lean back" and "look towards your endpoint rather than at your feet" techniques were the next most helpful to me.

    So, girls, even if you're way over 200 pounds, trust that the high-heel shoe engineers have designed them to handle that much weight, and always walk heel-to-toe (not heel-AND-toe together).



  3. Dear Stana,

    WOW! The YouTube ad ROCKS! Bravo, Alex and BRAVA, Alexis!



  4. If it's any help, try wearing heels and then vacuuming or sweeping up.

    The back and forth motion of running the cleaner around helps you practice your steps and balance. Plus, holding on to the vacuum helps support you.

    Oh, and the carpets will soon be very clean ;-)

  5. Lynn - that way is sister to the one I use - cooking and kitchen chores! Mine may have more side to side and turns, especially in a small kitchen

  6. Lynn and Fiona,
    I agree with you both. I may also add that while the kids were growing up and living at home my wife would on occasion wish she had a spare wife. Well now that we are empty nesters she does. Quite often on weekends there will be a large sized nicely dressed lady doing the cooking and vacuuming in hose, heels, makeup and a dress. It was helping her see the benefit of being married to a crossdresser that helped open the door to acceptance and tolerance of my femme nature.

  7. Catherine.March 31, 2017

    There is one aspect of wearing heels that isn't mentioned. Women who are passionate about wearing high heels - and I mean really high heels - and wear them every day, do not find it easy suddenly wearing flats. This is a consequence of leg muscles becoming attuned to function in the high heel 'arrangement'. A similar situation results, but in the opposite way, for anyone - men and women - who start wearing heels for the first time. The leg muscles and tendons suddenly become stretched and are required to function in an "arrangement' that is alien. It is perhaps like going to the gym and engaging in a new exercise that pushes the limits of where your muscles go as a result of an extreme position that your body is putting them in. It isn’t easy and can hurt! So if you want to go well in heels, start wearing low heels first and SLOWLY graduating to higher ones when ready. You ideally need to wear them every day. For occasional femulators this is possible by wearing a pair of knee-highs and heels when home and doing everyday actions like cooking, tidying up (yes vacuuming) and going up & down stairs. If anyone knocks on your door you can quickly take them off, hide them away and put on some slippers. There is also a bit of mental training and adjustment required to wear heels accurately, naturally, happily and convincingly. This training only comes with practice. Just like most things feminine - especially make-up.