Monday, July 18, 2011

Worship En Femme Poll Results

church02 I ran a poll last week that asked, "Did you ever attend a service of your religion en femme?"

There were 313 votes; 91 Yes votes and 222 No votes (29% and 70%, respectively).

I was surprised at the results; I expected fewer Yes votes. Less than one-third of the respondents said they attended a religious service en femme, but I expected maybe 10% because the trans crowds I hang out with don't talk much about the subject. There are a few exceptions, but the vast majority are mum on the topic and that silent majority was the cause of my low expectations.


  1. AnonymousJuly 18, 2011

    I guess for the Lord it does not make any difference, after all if we believe He is our Creator, he gave us the opportunity to be like we are, femulators!

  2. AnonymousJuly 18, 2011

    Two thoughs: First, your survey should have had a control question to the effect that "Do you attend church services," and then the question, "Ever attend 'enfemme'?"

    Second, I wonder how many of the CD's who would answer that they go to chucrch services, in either male or female attire, are gay or bi. In my experience, and by statistics, too, about 85 percent of all CD's consider themselves to be hetero, and most of them are safely tucked into the closet, hoping against hope that their "hobby" is never discovered by their wives. family, friends and co-workers. It's my personal opinion that closeted, hetero CD's try to appear as "normal" as possible to the world, and maybe they actually attend church services as much or more than the general populace.

    I am an Atheist, Gay CD, and wouldn't go to church if they dressed me in Cardinal's robes and asked me to deliver a guest homily at St. Patrick's.

  3. I have a client who just became a UU minister and will be ordained in a few weeks. She doesn't know about Meg, but I may consider attending that service dressed.

    Probably a bad idea, but I have loads of those!

  4. AnonymousJuly 18, 2011

    I'm not surprised that many of our sisters have (like myself) attended some form of religious service. There are many affirming churches especially in the New England area. I also believe we have a large numbers of religious phobic sisters who believe that "most" religious frown on our lifestyle, and / or they are either, agnostic atheist, or non committal when it comes to services of the godly kind. So their importance in doing these kinds of things isn't a priority. I just watched the Virgina Monologs TS version on net flicks and was completely surprise by the black minister who was one of the lades minister at her church and how open and affirming his sermons were and his love of god and knowledge of gods love for all, including ts ladies. I'm convinced that people don't go to church as much anymore because there is a huge bias against it being that old school patriarchal dogmatic authority it once was. This is no longer the case in many denominations.
    I have personally held conversations with 4 ministers 1 female the others male in 4 different denominations from evangelical to Unitarian including Catholicism. And have been always met with respect and caring and gods love.

  5. AnonymousJuly 18, 2011

    oops I wanted to leave the link for the TVM Beautiful Daughters

  6. AnonymousJuly 18, 2011

    Meg, If you desire going to your UU church enfem. I would say go for it, but if you are still unsure, have that conversation with the minister there. I did when I first started going back to church and was welcomed with open arms.

    Ingrid, It's unlikely that I would turn down the opportunity to make a statement in the manner you have described should I ever be asked. Though I do agree with this, I find nothing appealing to be in pope garb.

  7. Hi Stana,
    I'm one of your 'yesses' but perhaps it's not as straightforward as you think. I did it once a few years ago and then only as a dare and in a church where no one knew me.
    Perhaps some others among the yesses were similar?
    Y. xxx

  8. AnonymousJuly 20, 2011

    I didn't really try until I was 40 (20 years ago) but once I did I attended mass dressed en femme almost every time when I traveled to Los Angeles or the San Francisco bay area for work. Mostly suburban settings and I never had a problem. Of late I'm getting more daring in going to church locally, but not in my town, rather at a more diverse congregation in DC. On Easter Sunday there was another T* person in attendance at the sunrise mass and we talked after church was over.-Andee