Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Side Benefits of Serious Femulation

In the past, when my only outings en femme were support group meetings and Halloween parties, I was not fooling anybody, so there was no need to make an effort to pass.

Not that I looked like a guy in a dress --- I have always been a perfectionist, so I learned how to apply makeup, style wigs, and dress to impress. Yet, passing was not important because my public forays en femme were rare, so what I did then worked.

However, as my outings en femme increased, I realized that I had to do better. What worked at a support group meeting would not work on the streets of Gotham City.

My weight has always been on the heavy side with 20 pound swings from one year to next.

I decided to end the roller coaster ride. I lost a dozen pounds and two dress sizes. For the past few years, I have managed to avoid the 20 pound fluctuations.

Now, there are 2 or 3 pound fluctuations and they set off an alarm to alert me to watch my diet or my figure will suffer.

In addition to a smaller dress size, losing and maintaining a lower weight had some other benefits.

Gone are the uncomfortable heavyweight foundation garments. Comfortable and lightweight Spanx-style support is all I need these days to create the semblance of a girlish figure.

Also, my toes got thinner! Before I lost weight, the fourth and fifth little piggies on my left foot were not getting along. They overlapped, which caused friction, discomfort, and severe irritation. It was so bad that I planned to see a doctor about the problem.

After I lost weight, the toe problem went away. I assume it was a combination of thinner toes and less weight pressing down on those toes.

Whatever --- my feet are happier in heels these days!


  1. AnonymousJune 07, 2011

    who is the person in the picture?

  2. AnonymousJune 08, 2011

    Not that I looked like a guy in a dress ---

    Your whole blog is about "Femulation, a MAN whom emulates females" And yet you are not a man in a dress?

    Sure!! You think you know how to apply make up and select a wig! However, your facial features and body type still says:

    Man in a dress.

    Don't be a hypocrit.

  3. Yikes!

    Yesterday, a longtime reader called me a liar.

    Today, LeAnne calls am a hypocrite!

    Tomorrow, I think I will stop blogging and stay in bed!

  4. Anonymous --- Sorry, I have no idea who is in the picture.

  5. Weight loss or gain can impact all parts of the body. A 20 lb loss may result in a less than an ounce less weight crammed into you shoe but that little bit can make a major difference. I was very thin when I got married almost 4 decades ago. As I gained weight I found that I could no longer wear my wedding ring. Even now I know that a weight loss may reduce the number of chins I carry under my neck.
    Copngratulations and keep on top of you health and your weight. When it comes to femulating I think that we are stuck with the height and basic frame but every pound does matter.

  6. Stana, I really enjoy your blog. It's fun and entertaining and often thought provoking.

    I also admire your willingness to approve comments that aren't complimentary and are sometimes just mean. If I had comment moderation enabled, I don't know that I'd be so willing to do that.

    Not to turn your blog into a back and forth argument, but I think LeAnne misses the point. At one level, you are a "man in a dress" but you also present as a lovely women who takes care with her appearance. To me, that's what femulation is all about.

    Thanks again for your blog.


  7. Michelle SDJune 09, 2011

    Stana, I agree with Linda Marie. Thanks for the blog!

  8. I'm in the process of losing my 20 for the 10th time. Glad to see you were successful in keeping it off, it is hard, keep up the good work!!!

    It's just as hard as trying not to crossdress, and we all know how hard it is to try and stop that!

    Great blog, thanks.

  9. I'm very proud of your commitment! :D I agree that being en femme is not just about the face, but the whole package. I think a lot of girls forget this, and end up being a caricature of a woman rather a woman themselves. Oh well, you live and learn! ;)

    BTW- I love your blog! Keep up the good work, you gorgeous thing. :)