Friday, June 9, 2023

Gender on My Mind

Most people do not think much about their gender. They go about their lives, day-to-day, interacting with their world without considering their gender. They are acclimated to the role that meets society’s expectations for their gender and their lives go on with few, if any any issues related to gender.

On the other hand, some people think about their gender all the time. Thoughts about their gender fill their waking hours. They are not acclimated to the gender role that meets society’s expectations. Everywhere they turn, issues arise that cause conflicts in their mind related to gender.

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you probably are in the latter group of people rather than the former. I know I am. 

Gender is on my mind most of the time. When I get dressed in the morning, I often think about how I would prefer donning a female wardrobe rather than a male wardrobe. When I interact with society during my day, I often ask myself, “what would ‘she’ do?” in certain situations and how would society react to “her,” rather than “him.” Even when I am asleep, I cannot get away from it because most of my dreams concern gender issues. 

Sometimes, when I find myself thinking about gender, I berate myself because I feel I should be doing something more constructive than thinking about gender. And I wonder how my life would be if I resolved my gender issues, that is, if I lived as a woman 24/7, would all my thoughts and concerns about gender go away? Then would I be able to accomplish more than I am accomplishing now?

I fear that the answer is “no.” Gender would still be on my mind. Some new gender issues would occupy my time and some old gender issues would haunt me.

Such is the lot of a transgender.  

Source: Rue La La
Wearing Bailey44 suit and Salvator Ferragamo bag

I found this image on Pinterest allegedly a photo of a cisgender female and a femulator. There was no other information about this image on Pinterest and I was unable to find anything about it anywhere on the Internet. If anyone has any further info about the image, please speak up. Anyway, I was so impressed by the femulator that I had to post the image here.


  1. AnonymousJune 09, 2023

    First a comment on the femulator, This is my goal for femulation, A tall, curvy, fashionable woman. Just everything about herf Yeah!!! thats how I think I look and thats how I want to look!!! Paul G

  2. AnonymousJune 09, 2023

    Your post on Gender on my mind. So well written and in tune with my thoughts that my initial comment was going to be one word "IBID"

    However being Paul G, that's kind of hard to do, so to add a few thoughts

    Quite often on Reditt persons will ask "Am I transgender?"

    One of the responses often heard is cisgender persons, do not constantly question their, gender think about gender, cross-dress, fantasize about being a girl, a secretary, or wife.

    We / I have spent our whole lives just contemplating this conundrum.

    Yes I am transgender.

    Paula G

  3. ” Gender would still be on my mind.” You Said , I know !

  4. The right dress is from the FW2020 BCBG MaxAzria collection, the grey shoes on the left are a tragic mistake. The man in the portrait is King Willem-Alexander and is wearing the sash and star of the Militaire Willemsorde of the Netherlands, his photo was taken on 30 April 2013.

    Neither of these women are the photographer so at a bit of a loss with regard to the purpose of the occasion. What are we looking at to make us question this woman (who is wearing glasses but doesn't actually need them): her height and what looks like hip pads, neither of which is guaranteed evidence so I'm putting my money on not trans. But those grey shoes! That woman needs help from her friend.

  5. AnonymousJune 09, 2023

    The gentleman in the portrait is King Willem-Alexander of the Netherlands, flanked by Dutch flags if that’s any help.

  6. AnonymousJune 10, 2023

    photo must be from the Netherlands as the painting shows King WIllem Alexander

  7. Since I was around 13 and put on my first skirt I have have pretty much fantasized about dressing feminine just about every single day. I am 49 now. So every single day for 36 years? Not really a phase. lol. I was in denial though for much of that time. It wasn't until 2 years ago I admitted I was transgender. Blogs like these help alot. Just knowing that we aren't alone.