Thursday, May 22, 2014

Dayton Nights Two and Three Detailed

selfie in the ladies' room

Whereas my Dayton days two and three (Friday and Saturday) were similar and tend to blur together, my Dayton nights two and three were very different. Friday night, I attended our group's annual banquet and Saturday night, I attended a cookout at the home of one of the board members of my group who lives in the Dayton suburbs.


Our banquet occurs in a banquet facility in the suburbs south of Dayton. The food is always excellent, the after-dinner speaker is usually a well-known name in ham radio, and as a result, we fill the hall every year.

I wore my new orange and black peplum dress from Fashion to Figure with the same accessories I wore during the day sans necklace.

I drove to the hall with my carpool buddy, John, who had the job of collecting tickets at the event. So we had to arrive as early as possible, but since we are among the earliest arrivals, we can get a good table up front.

I had to go to the ladies' room upon arrival, so John picked a table and prepared to collect tickets. When I got to the table, a gent was already seated there. I did not know him, so I sat myself down and introduced myself.

He was a retired electrical engineer, but had only been a ham for a year and was attending his first Hamvention. We got along swimmingly and chatted about our families, careers, ham radio and Hamvention.

Ten minutes or so later, an old friend, someone who knew me as a boy before he knew me as a girl, joined our table and the conversation. Then two more strangers joined our table and there were introductions all around. I struck up a conversation with the two newcomers and we had a nice chat.

Everyone I encountered at the banquet, male and female, guests and banquet hall employees alike, were friendly and I had a great time.


I was a little worried about attending the cookout because of the weather. It was cold, rained throughout the day and I did not have proper clothing.

I wore black leggings with zippers on the cuffs from Macy's, a new blue peplum top from Fashion to Figure, black thigh-highs from Berkshire, mid-heel black "Daylight" wedges from Payless, and minimum jewelry. Over that outfit, I wore my blue Red Sox hoodie from my male wardrobe, which was the only piece of clothing I had that was appropriate for the weather.

When I entered the house, the hostess greeted me, "You're Stana, correct?"

She remembered me from when I attended the cookout two years ago. She was the perfect hostess to this transwoman on Saturday as she was in 2012.

There were about 50 people at the cookout. Some I knew (my fellow board members), most I did not, but almost all were very friendly... especially the guys. Guy after guy went out of their way to introduce themselves to me and chat awhile.

On the other hand, some of the other women in attendance were not so friendly. Most of the women were spouses of the guys in attendance and when my hostess introduced me to a table in a girl-boy-girl-boy arrangement, the girls were kind of cold. One woman in particular did not let up and sent daggers my way whenever I was in her vicinity.

Transphobia or jealousy? I like to think the latter, but you never know about the former.

The rain finally stopped, but the temperature was cold, so eating outdoors was a little uncomfortable, although the meal was excellent.

John and I both were leaving early Sunday morning, so we were the first to depart. As I said my final goodbyes, one of the fellows who was working at our booth came over and gave me a big hug. He has a transbrother and is sympathetic to transgender folks.

I appreciated the gesture and it was a beautiful way to end my trip to Dayton.





Johnnie David femulating in 1937.





Source: ideeli

Wearing Sue Wong.


  1. Seems the whole event a huge success. Congratulations! Pretty hard to come back to earth?

  2. You're beautiful enough, and dressed so well, that it's most likely jealousy...especially if they've never met you as a guy. But if they knew your male side previously, then it "could" be either. In any case, if you don't socialize with them apart from this event, it probably doesn't matter too much. What really counts is that you, and the other attendees, had fun...

    And I'm jealous!


    1. They did not ruin my weekend. In fact, if they were jealous, it made my weekend even better! LOL

  3. Dozens of additional civilians have now had pleasant, constructive, interesting and successful interactions with you in femulation mode. That is outstanding outreach and a well poised, high-heeled, step forward for acceptance and understanding for all of us.

    1. Thanks, Pat, but it is probably more like hundreds of civilians (this year, there were 22,000 civilians at the Hamvention).

  4. Congratulations, I agree with Kerry. Plus, I just wanted to say You looked outstanding in your outfits .... and I so happy for you

  5. Such has been my experience with both cis-men and cis-woman! I doubt you'll be seeing these women (or men!) in your future.

    Otherwise, I'm sure you had a good time, you looked wonderful! I'm happy for you, Stana.

    1. Actually, I probably will run into them again at next year's cookout (unless I do something else on Saturday night).