Stuff 112: I Learn From You

By J.J. Atwell

I Have Far To Go

I’ve stated several times in Stuff that I’m not an expert on the subject of crossdressing. Or much else either. But your responses to over a hundred installments of Stuff have taught me a great deal. I’d like you to continue your comments. I’d also like you to continue to learn from the real world.

Be Open To Learning

Back in my grade school days I was pretty much just filling the seat. I was smart enough not to have to work hard to get good grades, but not smart enough to know that I should work hard. Outside of formal education in the real world we all learn from others. Yes, that includes the CD world. 

Learning is not a passive journey. You need to be active to learn. Do that by reading avidly and closely observing others. Don’t sit back and think you know everything about our CD selves. I guarantee that you don’t already know it all. I’m not trying to be abrasive here; I just want you to remain open to new experiences. That’s the way to learn and push the envelope.

Watch Out For Your Biases

While you are observing the world, be aware that we all have biases. You’ll find biases in yourself. In your friends and family. In the community. In general. And in the stuff you read here on the internet. Yes, including my Stuff. 

In 1927, Werner Heisenberg observed that the act of observing a subject has an impact on the activity being observed. Well, that’s my layman’s interpretation of it anyway. The actual Heisenberg Principle is a bit more technical. What does that have to do with today’s Stuff? I’m sure my observation of the CD world is subject to my biases. Thus, I need a Heisenberg Compensator. (Yes, that’s a Star Trek reference.) While learning by observation, being aware of your bias is your Heisenberg Compensator.

Self-Reflection

Learning by watching others is only your first step, You need to think about what made a particular outfit on a GG or CD particularly striking. Please remember that blind imitation may not generate the same result for you. Your shape, coloring, size and stature are unique, so what works for others should be instructive, not definitive. Thoughtful integration—adapting observed behaviors to our unique personality and goals—is what creates meaningful development.

We are always learning, even when we are not trying. The corollary is that we are always teaching as well. Our everyday actions—how we treat others, how we respond to stress, how we pursue goals serve as lessons for those observing us. Remember that others are learning from us and be careful about what example we are setting.

Sorry For the Rambling

OK so today was a pretty esoteric journey into the land of learning,with a detour through Start Trek. Not quite my usual Stuff, but thanks for paying attention. Be mindful of your biases while you learn about the CD world no matter what the source. Apply what you learned in ways that are appropriate for you and your life. Live long and prosper.

I’ll Be Back

The image at the top of today’s Stuff was generated by ChatGPT based on a recent picture of me with the instruction to ChatGPT that it should show me learning from you. I’ll be back with more Stuff in the next installment. Comments are welcome either here on the blog or by email to Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com. JJ is always looking for more stuff so let me know what you would like to read about.

Wearing Stylewe

Libor Landa femulating in the 2003 Czech film Kamenak.
Click here to view this film on YouTube.