Wednesday, June 22, 2022

My Secrets

Paula recently commented, “Love your style; please share your secrets with us!”

I had to think about my “secrets” because most of what I do style-wise comes naturally to me. I don't think about it, I just do it. And this is what I do. 

Emphasize your assets.

My legs are my best assets, so I show them off by wearing short skirts and high heels. Heels make my legs even more shapely and short skirts reveal the results.

And there is some truth when I say, “My skirt’s not too short – my legs are too long!” I have resigned myself to the fact that the styles I prefer are going to be on the short side due to my leg length.

Dress for your body’s age, not your calendar age.

My arms are svelte enough for sleeveless sheaths and my legs are toned enough for short hemlines, so I show off what I've got (while I’ve still got it).

When in doubt, wear nude pumps.

Matched to my skin tone, they're a safe bet and they make my legs look even longer.

If it works, keep working with it.

When I find a style that looks good on me, I become a fan of that style and populate my wardrobe with more examples of that style. For example, I discovered that I look good in wrap dresses and as a result, I now own an assortment of wrap dresses.

On the other hand, keep an open mind. When you are shopping, try on styles that are not in your style book. You never know – it may look great on you. That’s how I discovered that jumpsuits belong in my style book.

Never buy a boring coat.

“Outerwear should never be an afterthought,” says Holmes & Yang co-designer Jeanne Yang. “So many people only see you in your coat—if you’re not wearing something great underneath your trench, they’ll never even know!”

With that thought in mind, fur coats are never boring. I own two full-length fur coats and a fur jacket. And I love animals, so all my furs are fake.

Own something in animal print.

Animal prints are timeless, racy enough, and always glamorous. I own a variety of animal print clothing and accessories.

Scarves are not for hiding.

Scarves are recommended for girls like us to hide our Adam’s apple. I don’t have much of an Adam’s apple, so I never wore scarves... until about five years ago, when I came across my dear departed Mother’s stash of scarves. One girls’ night out, I wore one of her scarves in her honor; I liked the look and began collecting and wearing my own stash of scarves.

Bigger jewelry is better jewelry.

Most girls like us are proportionally larger than cisgender girls. As a result, some of the jewelry designed for cis-girls is proportionally too small for us. So when I shop for jewelry, I shop for jewelry that is bigger rather than smaller.


If you have any questions about my secrets or anything else, please ask (stana-stana at

(Thanks to for helping me bring out my secrets.)

Source: New York & Company
Wearing New York & Company

Diether Krebs
Diether Krebs femulating in West Germany's television series Sketchup.


  1. AnonymousJune 22, 2022

    You have not mentioned hiding your worst bits
    For example my legs below the knee are quite good, the less said about my knees the better
    I wear my skirts about half an inch below them

  2. What a fab photo of you!

  3. Wonderful advice for the rest of us [even if we don't have your legs ;-)] - Thanks so much Stana!

  4. This is all fantastic advice. And I think that's the powerful thing - you know what you look good in, so experiment and take stock; if I may reduce your sage counsel to a stock sentence so.

    For the avoidance of doubt: thank you so much for sharing those secrets!

  5. Stana hasn't yet produced a list of online shopping sites that Paula asked for. Since Stana is an Avon Lady I think we can assume where she gets her makeup. One site she has mentioned more than once is I did some shopping there and am quiet pleased with the results. Lots of their fashions are way too young or revealing for me. I don't have all those fabulous assets that Stana has. But I don't have to fish around to find some more, let's call them age-appropriate for an 81-year old, fashions. One thing I want to emphasize is that not only their 1X is a very good fit for me, the arm length has been absolutely perfect for me so far. That's a problem for those of us who are "stuck" with men's arms. I've had to return tops and dresses because of arm length, or "fake it" calling a full length sleeve "3/4 sleeve". Not so with

  6. Prayers for your wife that all things come out well and she'll be in your life for a long time ahead