Today is International Women's Day
Today is International Women's Day.
As we prepare to celebrate International Women’s Day, our resolve to keep pushing for gender equality is stronger than ever. And we won’t stop until girls and women are equal everywhere.
That’s because equality is her birthright, enshrined in the UN Charter, but it isn’t her reality. Despite some progress, there is no place or part of life where a girl or woman has the equal rights or opportunities as a boy or man.
As a male woman, I am very sympathetic to these goals. While some might say that I possess “male privilege,” I would argue that male women are often treated worse than cisgender women, and I share the same yearning for equality that women seek.
Even when I lived much of my life disguised as a male, my natural femininity marked me as something less than a man, and I was treated accordingly by both men and women.
Living openly as a male woman has been an improvement. Being able to live as my true self, many women seem to embrace me as someone who has joined their team. At the same time, some men treat me even more poorly than they did when I was in my male disguise. I am sure many male women have had similar experiences and, like me, long for genuine gender equality.
Today is My Day
I turn 75 today and my family is throwing a party to celebrate the event. I am looking forward to the party, but something is missing. We will be celebrating my 75 years as a male – most of the attendees are not aware of my feminine side, so that side of me goes uncelebrated.
I have no interest in coming out to those who do not know. They are my nearest and dearest friends and relatives and I do not want to lose any of them if they react badly to my reveal. As it is, as we age our numbers are dwindling, so I do not want to lose anyone because of my “hobby.”
I will celebrate my feminine side alone. As in the past, I self-gifted my feminine side and will have a nice day out en femme real soon now.
And so it goes.
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Happy Birthday, Stana ✨ Sending hugs & kisses to your feminine side, let's celebrate in our minds
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday, Sweet Lady. You've beat me to the 3/4 pole by 3 months. I hope this day will be wonderful!
ReplyDeleteDitto. My birthday too. Seven years behind you. Always use it to celebrate International Womren’s Day too. And with family, so I can’t be myself, even I am lucky and able to live half my life as myself!
ReplyDeleteMay you enjoy a memorably Happy Birthday today, Stana! May you celebrate many more to come, all in good health and with great joy!
ReplyDeleteJacquie
May your day be filled with love, laughter, and cake. LOTS of cake! (giggle)
ReplyDeleteSeriously, I understand your approach and wish you a wonderful time when you get to celebrate Stana's 75th.
Happy Birthday! And keep on going your way
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday and thank you for being you. You give me inspiration every morning. I can't start the day without you and coffee. Here's wishing you many more. Randi
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday. So happy I found this site which I visit almost daily for stimulation and affirmation. Have a wonderful milestone.
ReplyDeleteOh, it's so good to be able to climb out of the coffin sized male conventions of clothing and grooming to be yourself. Thanks, Stana.
DeleteJohn
Happy Birthday Stana!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday Stana, enjoy your day with your family - and really enjoy your Stana day too! 🎂👠💋
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday. Make sure Stana gets a good birthday gift. I just gave myself heels, bodysuit and jewelry.
ReplyDeleteToo bad CASA STANA only carries one type of heels and nylons. Get some colorful footwear in the store.
Happy Birthday!!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday and thanks so much for all that you have done for your sisters and community. Also thank you for being my friend helping me understand this part of myself Stolat Paula G
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday Stana!
ReplyDeleteLinda
Happy Birthday, Stana.
ReplyDeleteRegarding "OK, who left the toilet seat down" - I ALWAYS lower the toilet set and lid before I flush the toilet to keep aerosol droplets in the toilet bowl instead if having them disperse all over the room.
I don't think of myself as a male woman. Rather, I think of myself as a two spirited individual with a feminine side and a masculine side. I may look and dress like a woman but I have a very masculine voice that you would expect from a tall bearded man.
John
Happy birthday, Stana! I have to agree with you on not revealing our femme selves to certain people... since I am a couple of years ahead of you, I don't want to lose family and friends over this. So, I celebrate with my chosen family monthly with my social group (one of which is well known to you, the delightful JJ).
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday Stana. The site is great. My fem self is mostly hidden from the entire world. My wife has never has, nor wants to, see me as a woman. I mean, I'm not a woman and I don't want her to be uncomfortable with this nor do I want my children embarrassed, nor do I want to have unpleasant interactions with other family, friends, or strangers. Maybe I wish it were different, but at 71 it's the lot I was given.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why I like to dress as a woman and years ago I tried as best I could to stop wondering why.
Emily