I asked an AI to explore what society would be like if men could wear womenswear as freely as women wear menswear today. Here is its response.
If men wearing womenswear were as socially acceptable as women wearing menswear, the change wouldn’t be loud or revolutionary—it would be quiet, structural, and deeply normalizing. The most important shift wouldn’t be clothing itself, but what clothing would stop signaling.
Below is what that society would likely look like, step by step.
1. Clothing would lose its moral charge
Today, womenswear on men is still read as transgressive—sexual, comedic, political, or identity-defining. In a normalized society, that interpretation collapses.
- A man in a skirt would register the way a woman in trousers does now: a style choice, not a statement.
- No automatic assumptions about sexuality, gender identity, or psychology.
- The question wouldn’t be “why is he wearing that?” but “is it appropriate for the weather or setting?”
This mirrors what happened when women adopted suits, jeans, and workwear: the shock faded, the meaning drained away.
2. Masculinity would become less brittle
Right now, masculinity is fragile because it is defined by exclusion—what men must not do, wear, or enjoy.
If menswear and womenswear fully overlapped:
- Masculinity would shift from policing appearance to describing behavior and character.
- Men would no longer need visual armor (uniforms of toughness) to be taken seriously.
- Emotional expressiveness and aesthetic interest would feel less risky.
In short: masculinity wouldn’t disappear—it would relax.
3. Professional life would quietly adapt
The workplace is where this normalization would matter most.
- Office dress codes would pivot from gendered rules to function-based standards (formality, safety, branding).
- A man in a blouse or skirt would be judged on performance, not “credibility.”
- Power dressing would diversify: authority would no longer be tied to a narrow male silhouette.
This would echo how women once had to dress “like men” to be taken seriously—except now, seriousness wouldn’t depend on gender mimicry at all.
4. Fashion would become more innovative—and more boring
Paradoxically, acceptance produces both creativity and ordinariness.
- Designers would stop marketing womenswear-for-men as edgy or subversive.
- Retail would reorganize around body shape, fit, and style, not gender labels.
- Many men would experiment briefly—and then settle into very normal looks.
Just as most women didn’t start wearing tuxedos daily once allowed, most men wouldn’t suddenly live in gowns. Normalization reduces spectacle.
5. Social anxiety around gender would drop
A major driver of modern gender conflict is symbolic panic—the fear that visible change equals social collapse.
In a society where clothing crossover is settled:
- Parents wouldn’t panic over sons in dresses any more than daughters in pants.
- Media outrage cycles would lose fuel.
- Gender expression would feel less like a battlefield and more like a spectrum of taste.
When symbols stop being forbidden, they stop being powerful.
6. Relationships would rebalance subtly
Heterosexual, gay, and queer relationships would all shift—but quietly.
- Straight men would feel less pressure to perform dominance through appearance.
- Partners could negotiate attraction more honestly, without rigid scripts.
- Power dynamics would rely more on economics, personality, and emotional labor—not visual gender cues.
Importantly: attraction wouldn’t vanish or homogenize. It would individualize.
7. What wouldn’t happen (common fears)
It’s worth being blunt about this.
- Men would not “become women.”
- Gender would not disappear.
- Society would not lose structure or coherence.
- Most people would still dress conventionally most of the time.
What would disappear is the idea that clothing is a reliable shorthand for worth, strength, or legitimacy.
Bottom line
A society where men can wear womenswear as freely as women wear menswear would not be chaotic or radical. It would be less anxious.
Less symbolic panic.
Less fragile masculinity.
Less obsession with policing appearances.
And more room for people—men included—to exist without constantly proving what they are not.
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I wonder what would happen with women who are totally accepting of men wearing feminine attire, but not their man? Would that shift, too?
ReplyDeleteI somewhat disagree about womenswear on men. I believe all clothing is gendered by being sexualized. Even when women wear menswear designed for women, it still retains tailoring notions and trimmings to attract attention to the wearer and perhaps highlight a female's specific charms (breasts, waist, hips, legs etc.). Think of a tailored pantsuit highlighting a woman's figure and embellished with subtle do-dads to draw the eye there. Men's clothing does not; another reason why it is so plain. A dress on a man in this case would be merely a toga, or a skirt would be a kilt.
ReplyDeleteIt is only my opinion folks and I look forward to the discussion....or, heaven forbid, the end of crossdressing as we now know it.
Vive la difference.
Angel Amore
I've seen women wearing clothing inspired by menswear, yeah, they look terrific. I've also seen women wearing menswear and they look somewhat incongruent. Bulges in wrong places, no contour to the chest due to binders, etc..There are definitely FTM people out there and I think they are just as maligned as MTF folks.
DeleteFirstly, thank you for disclosing that this post was AI generated. AI is a fantastic tool but there's a real risk that it just makes us lazy and it's no substitute for real human opinion.
ReplyDeleteAnd perhaps one of the weaknesses of AI - its difficulty to 'think' philosophically - has been laid bare in this post. Because if we create a world where clothing no longer demarcates gender, then the clothing loses its symbolism. This is exemplified by the simple denim jean - the only thing that determines which sex a pair is for is the nuance of the cut to take account of body shape. Otherwise they are no longer seen as the sole preserve of one or other of the sexes.
And kilts are another example of this, albeit from a different perspective. They give legitimacy to men wearing skirts and whereas the word 'skirt' still has gender connotations, the word 'kilt' does not and it's only the cut (and perhaps the addition of a sporran) that provides the demarcation.
So in the world described by this post, do the terms 'menswear' and 'womenswear' become irrelevant or do they just become a means of describing the structure - i.e. the cut - of a garment and no longer have a bearing on style?
And where does that leave us? Crossdressing relies on a clear distinction between what women wear and what men wear. If that distinction disappears, would the freedom to wear what we want fulfil us or just render our whole world irrelevant? You titled the post ‘When Men Dressing Like Women Stops Matter¬ing’ but for female to male ‘crossdressers’, that day has already arrived but if we see such a person, do we look at them as wearing men’s clothes or just gender neutral ones? And if we encounter an unashamedly feminine woman wearing a three piece suit and tie, do we process that as ‘she’s wearing men’s clothes’ or just ‘she looks amazing?’
In the end, for it not to matter, we have to decouple gender from clothing which, in turn, makes the basic premise irrelevant.
Thanks Stana. That was a fantastic read. AI-generated or not, I suspect there is a lot of truth in it. -- Missy
ReplyDeleteVery interesting AI post Stana - well done for acknowledging & posting. It is my belief that women, including wives (!) will fully accept men dressing as women at a future point that is nearer than a lot think. Rate of change/acceptance has accelerated at a staggering rate.
ReplyDeleteI wear women's wear the vast majority of the time. What's surprising to me is the very minimal reaction people have when I'm out in public. I have a figure similar to a woman, however overweight I am. The only thing that outs me as a man is my very masculine deep voice.
ReplyDeleteJohn
Interesting analysis by AI, and it makes many of the points that we in our community have made repeatedly in defense of our cross dressing inclinations while trying to rationalize the the hostility that it often triggers amongst the "civilians".
ReplyDeleteWhat it fails to mention, though, is that we have already been down this road before with no adverse consequences if one just looks at the gender-bending, over-the-top fashions of the 1600's and 1700's...and even going back to Roman times (and the like) when both sexes wore unisex toga-like clothing. Which begs the question "where did society go wrong" in this regard?
Then again, there were no fundamentalist evangelicals or right-wing conspiracy theorists with their virulent antithapy towards the LGBT+ community to deal with back then either...
I wish that this day of men wearing female clothing was perfectly acceptable. If women can wear men's clothing it is only right that men should be able to wear female clothing! Zoe
ReplyDeleteThe only way that is going to happen is if men actually wear female clothing. I happen to be a pioneer with it. You might want to do your part by wearing female clothing such as dresses.
DeleteWhen women started to wear trousers the pushback was WAY more intense than the quite minute pushback I have experienced for wearing dresses.
John
Note that I don't use a feminine name nor feminine pronouns.
DeleteImagine a hypothetical case of a woman wearing men's clothing. Except for TRULY exceptional cases, you don't see her adopting masculine names or pronouns. And above all, a woman would not seek counseling if she wanted to wear men's clothing.
John
I wonder if that happened, would the loss of the perceived danger of discovery mean the loss of (some of) the desire to cross dress?
ReplyDeleteI do not think AI has the answer. Over the centuries clothing has moved to and fro with regard to which gender dons various items. As far as acceptance for men to wear women's clothes, my wife has a wide tolerance for that, as long as it's not me. I wouldn't be surprised if many women have that attitude.
ReplyDeleteWhenever I read articles that discuss a world where men can freely wear women's clothes, I always wonder how many will and what types of clothes. Will we see men in the office in skirts and heels and hose? Strolling the boardwalk in a sundress? Dancing in a sparkly dress and stilettos on a Friday night? Meeting friends at a coffee shop in a sweaterdress and tights?
ReplyDeleteI think most of us here would say we would gladly and proudly dress like that in all those places, but what about the men outside our little universe?
My standard everyday attire include dresses, even out in public.
DeleteA lot of the time I get dolled up for Sunday mornings unless I am wearing a man's coat and tie outfit. When I get dolled up, I wear a dress, hosiery, heels, makeup, earrings, and nail polish.
Very few men wear coat and tie outfits and almost no woman dolls herself up as much as I do so.
I rebel against both genders showing up at a divine service wearing jeans and sneakers.
John