Stuff 79: Why Go Out?

By J.J. Atwell

A twist on "why do we dress?”

I guess at one point we have all wondered why we dress. Following discussions online at several sites, I’ve never seen an answer that works for me. I usually just say I like the feeling of the clothes as the fact is that I enjoy it. Others will claim it’s a hormone imbalance in the womb. Others say there is a sexual thrill. There are many more theories as to why we dress. 

Today however, I’d like to address a slightly different question: why do we go out? Let’s think about that. 

The question came to me while I was out with the members of my CD group for a girls’ night out. We were at a restaurant that we’ve been to before and as I was sitting there looking at the other members I wondered just why we do this. No, not why we dress. Why we go out dressed.

It’s more than just the clothes

Many of us say we like the clothes. I’m good with that. Yes, it is fun to wear those pretty outfits. It’s a bit of a progression for many of us. Women’s clothing is made to fit the female shape. So we add feminine curves to make them hang right on our male frame. But we don’t stop there. We add wig and makeup because seeing a guy’s head on a woman’s body is incongruous. We also go further with the right accessories to complete the look. It seems to me that if it was “just the clothes” we wouldn’t go to all that extra trouble. But we do.

So here we are all dressed and enjoying ourselves at home. We should be satisfied, shouldn’t we be? We’re wearing the clothes and even went the extra step to complete the look. I suspect that many of Stana’s followers never get beyond the point of getting dressed and staying home. But here I am, along with other CDs, out in public rather than just staying home. Why?

I’ve got a couple of theories. One is that maybe it’s just too confining in our own home. Even if we aren’t just restricted to one room and can enjoy the whole house. We look outside and see the world out there. I remember Stana mentioning at one point that stepping out of the metaphorical closet shouldn’t mean trading up to a larger closet by going to known CD-friendly places. Instead we should break out of the closet and go out into real life situations. Perhaps that’s the reason many of us do it.

Another theory is that it’s a test to see how well we accomplish the transformation. We go to all the work to look good as women. Our mirror says we look good. Our pictures say we look good. Even the friends that know about us say we look good. But do we really look good enough to pass to the ordinary public? Should we look at his as being the ultimate test as to how well we accomplish our femme look? 

There are probably other reasons that haven’t occurred to me. I’d love to hear from other CDs as to why they go out. Please give this some thought as it relates to you. And please note that I’m a CD – not a woman trapped in a man’s body. So my point of view may be different from those who are considering transitioning. 

I’ll be back

I welcome comments and suggestions here on Stana’s page or by email at Jenn6nov at-sign gmail dot com.

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Aleksandr Revva femulating in the Russian film Naughty Grandma 3.