Some girls recommend getting in and out of the ladies’ room as quickly as possible. I disagree. A woman who seems hurried or furtive may actually draw more attention. When I use the ladies’ room, I put my best high-heeled foot forward. I walk in like I belong, take care of business, wash my hands, maybe primp a bit in the mirror, and leave when I’m ready. The key is to behave naturally and avoid doing anything that calls attention to yourself.
Every now and then, my presence attracts attention—in a good way. A woman might compliment my outfit or ask where I bought my shoes, and suddenly we’re chatting like any two women would. How affirming is that?
That said, I don’t love using the ladies’ room for its intended purpose. The stalls can be tight, especially for someone Amazonian like me. There’s a surprising amount of maneuvering involved—lifting a dress or lowering slacks, dealing with pantyhose and panties, and possibly a girdle, too—all in a very confined space.
And then, of course, you have to reverse the process afterward. That’s why I always give myself a careful once-over in the mirror before leaving the stall, just to make sure everything is where it should be.
One practical tip: never put your bag on the floor—yuck. Use the hook on the back of the door.
And most importantly—always remember to sit to pee.
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| Paul Lynde femulating in the 1966 film The Glass Bottom Boat. Click here to view this film on YouTube. |
Wow doing our makeup in the men's room obviously the stones will be unused as we'll sit to do our business now soon we'll be moving to the other loos has our ladies will be using the new ladies standing to use their new equipment no powdering their noses now our turn now
ReplyDeleteNo question I pass as a woman particularly when I wear a dress, which is the vast amount of time. The only thing I better do in a ladies' room is to keep my mouth shut, as my voice is deeper than the typical man (I sing second bass in my church choir.)
ReplyDeleteWhen I was loading groceries into my vehicle while wearing a dress, some woman called out to me, "Is that you, Connie?"
If I wear men's clothes and enter a men's restroom I get strange looks until I speak.
more elbow room if you use an handicap stall. also place your purse on the lower of 2 hooks better safe than sorry.as others said=the whole secret to using the ladies is confidence--emily
ReplyDeleteI've done both. When presenting fully feminine, I've never had an issue in the women's restroom. There have been a few times I've used the men's room while fully feminine. No issues really ... they're just getting what they want me to do, which kind of makes me chuckle. A couple of times, I've been at the sink counter in my dress or gown and applying lipstick. A man will enter the restroom, then freeze, rewind, check the door sign, then double-take, then come on in, clearly uncomfortable. One time at a wedding, I was in a fabulous gown applying lipstick after dinner in the men's room. The doubletake man said, "Definitely a new era I've gotta get used to."
ReplyDeleteIf I have a full feminine presentation while using the men's restroom, all I have to do is talk. My deep masculine voice clears up the confusion.
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I am confused by your double standard. On one hand you are telling us to use women's bathrooms, but also you talk a lot on this blog about crossdressers/femulators are men. That this blog to me doesn't read so much about trans women but encouraging men to wear dresses and emulate women but not actually be trans women per se, but that all should men should femulate at least once, that dresses and female attire should not be solely female. A view I found somewhat refreshing because it seemed to invalidate the whole concept of cisness, that it wasn't cis vs trans, but civilians vs not-civilians.
ReplyDeleteBy George I think you've got it!
DeleteThanks. It's just that I feel there is a generation gap between CDs/transfeminine people of Stana's generation and the post-Gen X trans woman. Transfemininity is a spectrum but I feel Stana is still being contradictory to say 'trans women, use ladies' bathrooms' but also identify as men who EMULATE women, rather than women born male.
DeleteSo true, but so funny - those stalls!! Yes, check yourself in the mirror before exiting! My goodness, something is sure to be hanging out. haha
ReplyDeleteI agree. The key is to behave naturally. I am also tall. I always brush my hair, check my makeup especially lipstick. I also do short chit, chat with others especially if they say something. I love it when another woman compliments my makeup. Best comment was a tall cis woman how turned to me and said “don’t you love being a tall woman”. I said I do. That got me a hug. It made my night.
ReplyDeleteI watched a reality show where people tried to get support getting their inventions to market. One woman on the show had a brilliant idea. She had created a hook that she could keep in her purse and hang it over the bathroom stall door to hang her purse on, when the stall did not have such a hook. That was brilliant! I don't carry a purse, but I think every purse ought to have one of those!
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