tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post3325734033566790460..comments2024-03-18T15:49:20.967-04:00Comments on Femulate: The Road Not TakenStanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10259788604423472207noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-48193688052738054432024-01-17T08:59:45.638-05:002024-01-17T08:59:45.638-05:00This was an amazing read, thank you for linking it...This was an amazing read, thank you for linking it in Reddit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-60344757950657156252016-02-01T09:26:10.010-05:002016-02-01T09:26:10.010-05:00Thank you so much for this article. You can't...Thank you so much for this article. You can't know how it has touched me, you don't know me, no one knows me, the real me. I have been on this road for 56 years (started at about 11) and I come to that fork in the road over and over and turn back each time afraid to go forward. Then purge and swear it is over, then something clicks and I move forward again. But you put this so perfectly, not taking the road to HRT and beyond I have made a choice. The choice is to express my feminine side as I always have, quietly and behind the closet door. When dressed I am a woman. I am complete in my mind and at ease. Now if I could come to terms with the self loathing that seems to be a part of this. I refuse to go into the darkness that gripped me ten years ago as I stopped at the fork in the road. Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting into words what I feel, my wife and family mean so much to me and taking the final step would be devastating to them, I can't do that to them. (now if I could figure out the captcha code thing, it drives me NUTS, grin)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-2205404013184549522015-07-22T05:06:53.627-04:002015-07-22T05:06:53.627-04:00Thank you Paula, as a wide and deep River contempl...Thank you Paula, as a wide and deep River contemplating changes (how ever so slight). I appreciate another who lets the woman with in take a more compassionate role in those in their lives other then that which sometimes is just widow dressing for the soul! I'm in good company! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-37283702164294763622015-07-21T10:43:13.367-04:002015-07-21T10:43:13.367-04:00Paula, another excellent article! I started HRT 8 ...Paula, another excellent article! I started HRT 8 years ago when I was 55, and I really wished I had started earlier. I now enjoy very smooth skin and rarely have to shave my legs, but I started too late to get any significant breast development or curvy hips and derriere. I wish you the best on your journey!Linda Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08924964631825413016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-48728458101158201982015-07-20T05:25:28.616-04:002015-07-20T05:25:28.616-04:00Paula, It was like reading my own life, except tha...Paula, It was like reading my own life, except that I am still to conclude my decision. I sincerely appreciate your decision, particularly putting the Family before your predicament. We stand my you.Sravanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15427889289112088316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-83784664467454425362015-07-19T21:13:34.137-04:002015-07-19T21:13:34.137-04:00HRT is nothing to fear. I have been on M2F HRT fo...HRT is nothing to fear. I have been on M2F HRT for almost 4 years and I feel much better with the HRT. Before I went on HRT I was depressed and suicidal. My wife has even stated she likes me much better with my being on HRT.<br /><br />I have retained my masculine name John and male gender designation, which I do not plan to change. For work and church I wear lipstick and eye makeup, and I have D cup breasts. And yet I have a basso profundo voice. It's a hoot to look a lot like a genetic woman and yet have the deepest voice in a choir while men with traditional masculine appearances have higher voices.John C. Hudelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11296446555484378175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-87549712198546683652015-07-19T05:32:06.405-04:002015-07-19T05:32:06.405-04:00Thank Paula for a wonderfully written article (and...Thank Paula for a wonderfully written article (and Stana for the continued work on this platform that makes it possible for Paula and others to be able to share their thoughts).<br /><br />I have read every blog published on Femulate over the last few years now - and I can honestly say this is perhaps the most thought provoking and enjoyable of those.<br /><br />I wish you (and those close to you) all the best as you continue on your journey<br /><br />Mivhelle xxMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17874589852333546467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-67340040946146081542015-07-18T12:43:49.780-04:002015-07-18T12:43:49.780-04:00Dear Paula,
Thank You for sharing your beautifull...Dear Paula,<br /><br />Thank You for sharing your beautifully written essay. It was very interesting to read. I always find your articles to be very well-written and interesting.<br /><br />Dear Stana,<br /><br />Thank You for your continuing sharing of Paula's articles, as well as other repeating contributors.<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />Sheila.Sheila from Tampahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09230335934380274993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-77445991438732385552015-07-18T11:09:57.386-04:002015-07-18T11:09:57.386-04:00Sally that is so correct just because I'm not ...Sally that is so correct just because I'm not on HRT doesn't make me less of a woman or a transgendered woman I plan on being as much of a woman as I can and expressing myself as much as possible and many things that I do thank you PaulaPaula_56https://www.blogger.com/profile/09762340959679940655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-82004886356943418852015-07-18T11:09:09.148-04:002015-07-18T11:09:09.148-04:00Thanks for your comment and yes turning the telesc...Thanks for your comment and yes turning the telescope on oneself is something that many of us have to do my decision was made with her incorrect or correct weighing many different principles thank you for taking the time to reply PaulPaula_56https://www.blogger.com/profile/09762340959679940655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-27377348175037679942015-07-18T11:08:24.112-04:002015-07-18T11:08:24.112-04:00Rhonda I read your articles all the time and do ap...Rhonda I read your articles all the time and do appreciate them you have been a role model for me of sorts as for my future my options are always open and I still will continue to express myself as a woman whenever possible thank you Rhonda PaulaPaula_56https://www.blogger.com/profile/09762340959679940655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-26503675725068899272015-07-18T11:07:45.149-04:002015-07-18T11:07:45.149-04:00Lisa is someone who is going through the same deci...Lisa is someone who is going through the same decision process I'm glad to hear that you appreciated my article as we know there's no correct way to be transgender and we all struggle with many difficult decisions thank you for your comment and your support PaulaPaula_56https://www.blogger.com/profile/09762340959679940655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-69117041063178105242015-07-18T11:07:07.632-04:002015-07-18T11:07:07.632-04:00Pat your replies are always so well thought out an...Pat your replies are always so well thought out and they've addressed several parts of my article it took me several weeks to write this and yes the part about the Rubicon was delivered but I do like the analogy of the toothpaste to also thank you again for commenting looking forward to the future PaulaPaula_56https://www.blogger.com/profile/09762340959679940655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-87141022303063440962015-07-18T11:06:16.270-04:002015-07-18T11:06:16.270-04:00Thanks for taking the time to comment I appreciate...Thanks for taking the time to comment I appreciate the input I hope it helps many of our sistersPaula_56https://www.blogger.com/profile/09762340959679940655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-67205892853775120342015-07-17T16:30:14.459-04:002015-07-17T16:30:14.459-04:00Paula,
Your essay was wonderful and enlightening. ...Paula,<br />Your essay was wonderful and enlightening. Deciding how far we should pursue our transgender nature is such a personal endeavor. It was so nice to hear the perspectives leading you to your choice. It reminds us that we should never be compelled to go any farther than we decide personally: what is right for us. The other important thing your comments reminded me of was the fact that choosing not to do HRT shouldn't diminish any of us as a woman. It's still about how we feel inside that defines us. <br /><br />Sincerely,<br /><br />SallySally Stonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-61947487829714257622015-07-17T16:27:05.475-04:002015-07-17T16:27:05.475-04:00He outlined the dangers of increased cancer risks ...He outlined the dangers of increased cancer risks and the need to stop HRT when I get into my mid to late 60s because of the increased risk of stroke. Re this comment I started a low dose of HRT when I was well past mid sixties and any older readers should not be put off by the Dr's advice. I am under the care of the leading UK specialists and age is not a barrier.<br /><br />I am in a similar position to Paula in that it would be too cruel to my wife of 47 years if I transitioned. However, she does come out with me for which I am so greatful.<br /><br />Regards Jae<br /><br />Jaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09076609725114238018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-7553163031486134312015-07-17T12:28:19.901-04:002015-07-17T12:28:19.901-04:00It is easy to get self-obsessed about one's cr...It is easy to get self-obsessed about one's crossdressing and transgenderism, constantly thinking about what one wants and how one feels and what the arc of one's life could be and could have been and the trade-offs in terms of job and family and friends and home.<br /><br />But turning the telescope around is more important: if I follow a course, how will it affect my spouse and children and siblings and parents and wider family and friends, and those who I've built a relationship with? Making choices based on those wider personal circumstances is important.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11389491531472888844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-20825446516640414162015-07-17T11:46:44.876-04:002015-07-17T11:46:44.876-04:00Well thought out - Enjoyed reading. Don't liv...Well thought out - Enjoyed reading. Don't live a life that will only have regrets or wishes when you look back. "It is never too late to be what you might have been." George Eliot<br /><br />Rhonda rhonda's escapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16333998589746919994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-4493771847272007252015-07-17T08:58:57.560-04:002015-07-17T08:58:57.560-04:00Well written Paula. I always enjoy your posts here...Well written Paula. I always enjoy your posts here. Thanks for sharing. Two years ago i Had to make the same decision and it was a very tough one given my life long desires. It is also great to know that if things do change I can change and start again on my way. Have a fantastic day!Lisa Kaufmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15917813471632846677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-76619688734791642962015-07-17T08:54:39.737-04:002015-07-17T08:54:39.737-04:00Paula
Thank you for sharing this very intimate lo...Paula<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this very intimate look into your life, your thinking and your analysis with a perfectly wonderful piece of polished prose. With all of us we need to assess and evaluate our own situations and work to achieve a workable balance. We all have desires that must be viewed through the prism of our regular existance and the obligations that we have to others in our lives.<br /><br />I like the "Rubicon" analogy. It is always nice to equate current situations to great moments in world history. I like the Rubicon analogy more than the idea of facing the difficulty of trying to put the toothpaste back in the tube.<br /><br />HRT is a major step in both affirming and achieving a confirmation of femininity. It is interesting that the doctor would discontinue it at a certain age due to his concern with balancing the positive aspects of HRT with the potential negative aspects such as increased risk of stroke. <br /><br />PatPat Scaleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00148601231866277374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-77901980109225723812015-07-17T07:53:56.251-04:002015-07-17T07:53:56.251-04:00Life is all about choices, Stana. I'm glad to ...Life is all about choices, Stana. I'm glad to see you chose to allow your blog spot to be used by others who make sense, too.<br /><br />Good on you!Billiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08191152071395073265noreply@blogger.com