tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post3224515965899438359..comments2024-03-28T09:40:37.931-04:00Comments on Femulate: WelcomeStanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10259788604423472207noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-55082819003883305802021-10-27T04:13:18.783-04:002021-10-27T04:13:18.783-04:00A few years ago I went to a meeting of a cross-dre...A few years ago I went to a meeting of a cross-dressers/trans club in Brisbane (Australia) for the first time and was completely frozen out. It was as if I didn't exist. The regulars were wrapped up in their recent exploits/experiences and in their forthcoming events. I never went back.joanne askewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512594779172929935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-58944456055001299832021-10-26T15:20:06.212-04:002021-10-26T15:20:06.212-04:00lynn, i presume you are commenting on stana rather...lynn, i presume you are commenting on stana rather than myself. but i thought i should mention anyway that is what did in fact happen to the trans social group i attended (that as far as i know is now no more, other than a website). i suspect one reason was the "old maids" clique (meanfully or otherwise) putting off prospective new members who were already extremely nervous taking their first steps into that environment?<br /><br />but times change anyway, and the trans scene has changed with it. when the club started up in the 80's it was a lot more furtive and underground than it is now, with many members never daring to even step out the front door into the gay village dressed for fear of being recognised or worse. these days though, i hear that the younger generation actually go out clubbing on the straight scene - never mind the gay haunts. so why would they want to restrict themselves to a private members' club?gina vnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-52775000728445295682021-10-26T03:58:17.361-04:002021-10-26T03:58:17.361-04:00Friction between people transitioning and cross dr...Friction between people transitioning and cross dressesr is more widespread than I thought<br />I saw it on Roses, a UK forum for Tgirls a few years ago<br />it does not exist now<br /><br />I think being jealous of others who look better than they do is normal amongst all women regardless of who they are <br /> LucyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-64491365635058606672021-10-25T18:54:31.310-04:002021-10-25T18:54:31.310-04:00I'm sorry to hear you got the cold shoulder. I...I'm sorry to hear you got the cold shoulder. I think the better groups welcome new people and know that without members, they will wither away.Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-79495489468284850092021-10-25T18:52:54.860-04:002021-10-25T18:52:54.860-04:00You could throw in Empathy and possibly Individual...You could throw in Empathy and possibly Individualism* if we're talking StrengthFinder 😉<br /><br />( * Where the person matters more than the group )Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-90904943608041845122021-10-25T17:49:09.839-04:002021-10-25T17:49:09.839-04:00when i came out of "retirement" a few ye...when i came out of "retirement" a few years ago, i went once again to the local trans social group (having visited it on the odd occasion when i first came out over a decade before). the primary reason for doing so was that they offered a place to get ready in before having the option to either hang out there for the evening or head out to other bars nearby (it was in the middle of the manchester gay village)<br /><br />i felt it would be somewhat rude to use it just for that purpose though, so always made a point of having at least one drink there before i considered moving on. the hostess was always very welcoming, but other than that i remember getting totally ignored by the old guard/inner circle that were holding court on their "own" table<br /><br />brits are of course known for their coolness and reserve towards strangers anyway, and cliques exist within all forms of social groups. and i suspect trans ones are probably no exception in that regard to at least some degree. but this particular clique was without exception very old, dowdy and somewhat unconvincing. and at the risk of sounding big-headed, i suspect one reason i was ignored was that they viewed me with a tinge of jealousy for being none of those things (in relative terms, anyway). which may well have been the reason stana got the cold-shoulder?gina vnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-71942843142412638642021-10-25T12:19:29.212-04:002021-10-25T12:19:29.212-04:00All the groups I've wandered into here in Balt...All the groups I've wandered into here in Baltimore or DC have been very welcoming. An exception might have been here in Baltimore. Our leader, Tasi Renta, was brutally murdered. After that we got a new leader and our group turned sharply toward transitioning. Since I was -- still am -- a crossdresser I noticed new ladies were given the cold shoulder if they weren't TG, and eventually I got frozen out. My new group, a Tri-Ess chapter, tripped all over themselves to be nice and helpful. After that group pooped out, Meetup groups emerged to take its' place, all of which take great care to make new ladies very welcome. MIkkiBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445029378079163292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-57136314153173536302021-10-25T11:45:03.572-04:002021-10-25T11:45:03.572-04:00Great that you kept going and used that experience...Great that you kept going and used that experience to make everyone's lives easier; sad that you had to experience it like that.<br /><br />My first visit was quite recently and there was a warm welcome indeed, I cannot fault it. May we all strive to keep that welcoming approach that you embody.Joanna Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03765570687013090805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-931926736644385632021-10-25T08:55:35.371-04:002021-10-25T08:55:35.371-04:00Your actions are what Clifton StrengthFinders desc...Your actions are what Clifton StrengthFinders describe as Woo. You are the kind of person who goes out of her way to make new members to the group feel welcome. Once they've acclimated, people whose personality trait is Woo move on to the next person to ensure they are assimilated into the group as well. It's a wonderful personality trait to have and share with others. Jasmine Bondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770826950456214031noreply@blogger.com