tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post3201978197609655367..comments2024-03-29T09:38:11.819-04:00Comments on Femulate: Minus 4Stanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10259788604423472207noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-62157977299115450382022-05-28T23:51:15.457-04:002022-05-28T23:51:15.457-04:00The above is from Ms. HunterThe above is from Ms. HunterThe above is from Ms.Hunternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-10304495373018367272022-05-28T21:47:15.449-04:002022-05-28T21:47:15.449-04:00Beautiful Francesca, you are who you are, as I am ...Beautiful Francesca, you are who you are, as I am who I am. Be you! Be strong! Be a voice for others! Never, EVER be ashamed of who you are. Yes, there will be more hurdles and obstructions that look like roadblocks. With that being said, let me tell you one thing.......the only roadblock you have is YOU! Be proud, stand tall! We live one life. As long as you are good and respectful to others......that is all that matters..............................except the fact that you always need to be true to yourself, because if you are not....you are only lying to yourself and EVERYONE around you! Love ya~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-5509082538651858702022-05-25T17:23:29.288-04:002022-05-25T17:23:29.288-04:00You’re such a beautiful woman, both inside and out...You’re such a beautiful woman, both inside and out! Thank you for taking the time to do this. Christinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-58992432926025938072022-05-24T19:29:05.228-04:002022-05-24T19:29:05.228-04:00You are an amazing beautiful woman. Thank you for ...You are an amazing beautiful woman. Thank you for taking the time to write this all out. This subject can be a difficult one who is curious of the who, what, where, when and why you wanted to make the transformation. I’m so glad you did, I love that you educate people that it is ok to be yourself and have confidence in the person you are in your soul. Thank you for always being you. Keep doing what you are doing, you will touch so many lives. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-52831560838842313412022-05-24T18:09:01.206-04:002022-05-24T18:09:01.206-04:00What a beautifully written piece. Part of me wants...What a beautifully written piece. Part of me wants to defend your father because I think like others have said he wanted to protect you from the hurt he knew you would face. The problem was he handled it wrong because he didn't know how to deal with something he didn't know anything about. <br /><br />There is another part of me that is angry with both of your parents for not sitting down with you and asking you what are you feeling, what's going on, trying to understand you. Also for taking away the things you love. I stood my ground with my husband when he kept wanting to throw away my son'sblanket. I knew if we did that it would cause him unneeded stress and anxiety. So he had it all of his life inside his pillow even at college until he was ready to part with it. No one needed to know you had dolls, because like my son's blanket it was no one's business. <br /><br />Those dolls and dressing up was not only the part of you that needed to come out and show the world this is who I am. It was also your connection to your grandma and that was taking away and belittled which wasn't fair.<br /><br />I know on a personal level when my son came out it broke my heart when he told my husband & I that he was afraid to tell us because he thought we would be upset. We were shocked because we thought he knew he could come to us with anything.<br /><br />So, Fran I am so glad you had your grandma in your life to tell you to be yourself. Because it would be a sad world without your beauty.<br /><br />I can't wait to read the next installment. <br />Remember Fran ( All the world is made of faith, love and pixie dust *)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-72031458618637453882022-05-24T15:19:42.481-04:002022-05-24T15:19:42.481-04:00TO THE CONTRARY ..... by Velma
Your father/famil...TO THE CONTRARY ..... by Velma<br /> Your father/family felt shame because of your feminine behavior, as well as what others would feel and put off on him.<br /><br />DEAR OLD DADS behavior is a CLASSIC EXPRESSION /REACTION FORMATION ASSOCIATED WITH TOXIC MASCULINITY as well as TOXIC SHAME<br />I have seen same over OBESITY, PHYSICAL DISABILITIES, HAIR LENGTH/STYLES (a really BIG deal in the .60s /70.s SOUTH). CLOTHING STYLES RELATED TO HIPPIES, ect... ASSOCIATION/FRIENDSHIP OF "OUTSIDERS".....<br />The list is practically endless.<br />I got plenty of the same &#!+ from my own 'loving family'. For numerous 'transgressions' from the above list.<br />This has nothing to so with REAL LEGITIMATE SHAME...<br />YOU DID NOTHING SHAMEFUL, as I hope you know.<br />Your father would have had LESS SHAME IF YOU HAD TURNED OUT TO BE A VIOLENT CRIMINAL-- at least THIS is an example of MACHO(?).<br />Please do refer to John Bradshaw's book "Healing the Shame that BINDS YOU".<br />Plenty copies on EBAY. Cheaper than therapy.<br />Velma<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-50672614035683542222022-05-24T09:54:48.388-04:002022-05-24T09:54:48.388-04:00Yes he did it out of my protection, it took me yea...Yes he did it out of my protection, it took me years to process that. The problem I have with it is how he went about it. I will be posting more articles to explain how I got there. Francesca Pankewicznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-2064905583858915782022-05-24T09:52:43.578-04:002022-05-24T09:52:43.578-04:00He did it to protect me from others yes, it took m...He did it to protect me from others yes, it took me til I was an adult to understand that. But, it doesn’t make up for the way he approached it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-66350408031238208982022-05-24T09:05:40.187-04:002022-05-24T09:05:40.187-04:00Francesca
I think your father was trying to get yo...Francesca<br />I think your father was trying to get you to give up dressing because he could see you were going to have serious problems with life in general plus transphobia<br />He meant well<br />My father would hit the ceiling at any suggestion of me wearing a dress to a fancy dress do <br />Lucy Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-11527410134374742212022-05-23T18:18:43.237-04:002022-05-23T18:18:43.237-04:00Ah, the things people say when they're 'pr...Ah, the things people say when they're 'protecting' you. How about accepting and not judging instead? Thanks for sharing your history.Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-59555210612709210852022-05-23T15:50:17.624-04:002022-05-23T15:50:17.624-04:00Peace Stana.. ... ....Peace Stana.. ... ....Sara Blevinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14663521743361323781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-44183323678769036872022-05-23T15:35:46.105-04:002022-05-23T15:35:46.105-04:00Thanks again for that heartfelt contribution.
Vel...Thanks again for that heartfelt contribution.<br /> Velma<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372432081562643074.post-47737188264766713342022-05-23T04:13:48.791-04:002022-05-23T04:13:48.791-04:00Lovely to see a contribution here from the younger...Lovely to see a contribution here from the younger generation. George Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03894384665762504898noreply@blogger.com