By J. J. Atwell
Actually, I’ve got lots of things to wear. I just don’t quite know what to wear when. I’ve been playing at this girl thing for some time now, but I’m still uncertain about what to wear for my local group’s various situations. It’s one thing to get dressed for a meeting at our secure clubhouse. It’s a different thing when the group is doing a girls night out.
This month, our group is having an outing at a quaint, artsy town nearby and that seems to make the decision even more complex. Why? Because it’s more than just going to a restaurant for dinner where we will be somewhat secluded. We’re planning on doing a bit of browsing and shopping at the various businesses there. We will be out amongst the general public, freely intermingling and interacting in the middle of the day. The day will also include lunch rather than dinner. And adding to that, it will likely be fairly hot weather. So we need an outfit that’s appropriate for all those conditions.
As I stare into my closet looking for the right thing to wear, I’m just not sure that I have something that fits the bill. What to do? Talk to my girlfriends, of course. You know, ring, ring, “Hello, Jane. What are you wearing to the big event?”
Friendships
This reminds me of one of the wonderful aspects of being part of a local group that meets regularly. It’s not just about dressing up; it’s also about building friendships and finding mentors in the community. You get to connect with people who understand what you’re going through.
I’m so lucky that I can always ask any of the other members or a couple of GGs for advice on clothing and other things. They always give me great insights on what might be best for a particular occasion.
When I was considering getting a new wig, Cathy was incredibly helpful with her knowledge and the resources she suggested for further research. When I was thinking about what to wear for this outing, Kathryn offered several great suggestions. And my GG friend Alicia also gave some practical advice.
So the key takeaway is that friendships are incredibly important. Friends are what help us feel comfortable in our own skin and what we wear. Make sure to make some good friends through your group and also be a good friend to others. Doing this helps the community as a whole.
I’ll Be Back
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I understand the issue of "having nothing to wear". Anybody who routinely wears womenswear, man or woman, understands that. I didn't have a red v-neck wraparound dress for Pentecost Sunday, so I ordered one from Amazon. Nevermind that I had over 65 dresses in my closet.
ReplyDeleteAs far as mensware is concerned, I have two suits and maybe ten shirts, which I don't wear very often.
John
I suspect that many of us are in the same position! JJ
Deleteas i have disclosed before i am fortunate to have my mother-in-law’s guidance & support with my dressing so i am lucky enough to ‘be wearing the right outfit for an occassion’ & never having that “nothing to wear” day as she has such an extensive wardrobe. her support as been so important to me. i regard myself as lucky that she appreciates my feminization. our relationship provides mutual benefits. i do hope others have such a person in their life.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful experience. We should all be so fortunate. JJ
DeleteOne of my favorite daydreaming activities is to think about what feminine outfit I would wear for any occasion, taking into consideration the locale, season, who I want to impress, etc etc. Your event is definitely giving off sundress and cute but comfy sandals vibes:)
ReplyDeleteI like those suggestions! JJ
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