Femulate: Shapewear Shopping Guide for Womanly Men

Shopping for shapewear as a male crossdresser can be fun, empowering and a little daunting if you’re new to it. Here’s a step-by-step guide—part practical, part playful—that blends functionality with a touch of classic femme flair.

Know Your Goals

What are you trying to achieve?

Tummy control? Look for high-waisted control briefs or a waist cincher.

Curvier hips or butt? Try padded panties or hip enhancers.

Bust shaping? Consider padded bras or even a falsie-compatible shaping cami.

Smooth silhouette under dresses? Go with bodysuits or slips with built-in control.

Measure Like a Lady (With a Twist)

Since most shapewear sizing is based on women’s measurements, grab a soft measuring tape:

Waist: Narrowest point above your belly button.

Hips: Widest part around your butt.

Chest: Around fullest part, especially if you plan to wear breast forms.

Tip: Use women’s size charts but remember: you may need to size up 1 or 2 sizes depending on your build (especially in the shoulders or torso).

Choose the Style for Your Outfit

Under a pencil skirt or tight dress? Go for mid-thigh shorts or a bodysuit.
Something vintage or romantic? Try a longline girdle or corset—glam and functional.
All-day wear? Stick to light-to-medium compression for comfort.

Shop Like a Lady or a Fox

In store?

Walk in with confidence—many lingerie store staff are supportive and used to serving crossdressing clients. Don’t hesitate to say, “I’m shopping for myself” with a smile.

Online? Try:

HerRoom
Glamour Boutique
En Femme
Amazon (for fast try-ons)
Spanx or Maidenform (if you want basics with punch)

Don’t Forget the Extras

Body stocking or pantyhose can smooth lines underneath.
Breast forms may shift—choose a cami or bra that keeps them snug.
Tucking? Consider gaffs or shaping panties made for a smoother front.

Try On, Twirl, Repeat

Don’t be afraid to experiment. Walk, sit and pose in front of the mirror. The right shapewear should: